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Originally Posted by napoleon
The whole reason she broke up with me was because I kept saying I never wanted kids and she wants them. well I was just being a confrontational prick and I did tell her that I could do it with her but by then it was too late and she moved on. One of the reasons I keep thinking she really does/did love me was that when we talking about her getting pregnant she said she knows im so against kids she would have an abortion if I did get her pregnant. A person who is so adamant about having children can say they would have an abortion because she wouldnt want to put me through something like that just made me think, damn this girl really does love me. Of course my letter was too late and she found a guy that told her what she wanted to hear, and here I am clinging onto that last shred of hope that I might get back with her.
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IF she did go ahead and did that "for you" she would eventually end up resenting you especially if she is adamant about having kids....the decision to have (or not) kids in a relationship is something that both of you have to see eye to eye on and not just agree because the other wants (or doesn't want) If not, there is the risk that if you do have kids, the one that didn't really want them would probably feel "tied down" or pressured and if there weren't kids the other would feel unfulfilled. IMHO
PS: won't even get into how the poor kid would deal with a parent that didn't want children....
