Being able to flirt and get free drinks probably gives her a feeling of self-esteem and power that she is used to getting. It's probably a little like an addiction, and perhaps an understandable one. Probably many gorgeous women are used to that. It's probably a little like a guy giving up something that makes him feel powerful, like I don't know, a high-paid job or something.
Hopefully the relationship with you offers something better, for which she's willing to give up that pattern. I don't think you can force it though.
Maybe this is a opportunity to really open up and be vulnerable with her, more than you have before. That might break her heart. Some chicks just can't believe it when a guy does that and it moves them very deeply. If that doesn't work, if you're both not willing to give up previous patterns to make this relationship deeper, then maybe you're not meant to have a deep relationship?
I guess what I'm saying is give the relationship your best effort and it will either get better or it won't.
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