[pliny_2001]

Oh, there's no doubt - you're completely in love with her. But don't worry; this is an easy enough problem to solve.

First of all, you need a boom box/portable stereo. And - ideally - a station wagon and a a grey or tan (think light colors - black and dark browns are way too creepy for this to work) trench coat. Make sure you download Peter Gabriel's "In Your Eyes" to the portable stereo - I think it really is the perfect song for what you're describing. Drive to her new location (assuming you can find out where she is -- if she moved without telling you, finding her new address may be difficult, but there's a significant amount of information on the internet, so I doubt that anyone would consider it an invasion of privacy to be "tracked down" by an ex-coworker they once almost hooked up with while drunk sometime within the last four years).

Assuming that she's home - and, I guess, not engaged or otherwise dating anyone - get out of the car and hold the boom box overhead as it plays Peter Gabriel. It is at this point that your love should be obvious to her. Bonus points if you have one of those "My Name Is" stickers, with "Lloyd Dobler" written on it.

I have never once heard of this failing, and have actually seen it succeeded over even greater odds than what you've presented. Good luck, and great first post!