long distance relationships

[haramjata]

I dont like em, especially since people cheat too much anyway.

Hormones and such.

[jsbeer]

My two cents on this.

As a general rule I would say LDRs are a bad idea unless you are already in a serious committed relationship and even then it can be dicey. There's just too many ways that things that can go wrong. Most of the times its better to go back to being friends and if in the future your paths happen to cross again and you are both single then so much the better.

Now if I was only smart enough to listen to my own advice .....

[white1delta1]

they never last it might seem like a good idea to start with espically if you really like that person but without the physical contact it never works out in the long run. Ontop of this theres the emotional drain of all the added problem that distance can bring to the relationship

[badgercrew]

I have been in a long distance relationship for almost 6 months and as many of you stated accurately, "It sucks." The hardest part is not being able to see my girlfriend. We have gotten over this slightly by continually making plans to see each other. Though living 2000 miles apart puts a great toll on my bank account, she is worth spending that money on. We were forced into this situation because of school versus school locations. If everything works out correctly, I will move to be closer to her once she settles into a Ph. D. school and I am able to find a job near her.

I find the best thing is to not force talking to each other over the phone every night. Not only does that get boring because you don't have much to say everynight, but it also takes away from the quality time you need to spend out with friends. In this time there a numerous ways to communicate email, mail, postcards, flowers, gifts, text messaging, instant messaging. By using all those options not only do you keep thing interesting, but you keep from making each other bored with conversation. Emails can be great by writing a story of a funny event during the day.

To end as I began, true they do suck but what are you to do if you want to be with someone and this is your only option, until you can afford to move closer. Hope this helps any of you, and I hope I won't be eating my words in the next few months.

[hate_on]

imo i think its tough... a girl far away and you are here. u cant really see them or spend time with them....well only on phone or internet. i would rather be with her and actually kiss her on the lips then sayin "muah" on the phone

[k-y]

To give hope to those that are in LDRs, I met my wife in her junior year of college while on a study abroad program and after hitting it off, we were apart for her senior year and then she came over to join me after graduating and the rest is history!