Valentine's Day Dilemma

jblrocks · February 11th, 2006, 12:52 PM

with the day just around the corner...ive been having second thoughts on whatever I should give my ex-girlfriend anything.. I know it sounds stupid but this will be the first valentine's day that we arent together and I just feel that I need to get her something. I know that im moving on but like I still have a special place in my heart for her... A small card.. some chocolates something that will give her a smile... I mean were still friends and whatnot but lately shes been really nice to me so I feel that I need to give her something in return... Just wondering if this is a good idea or I should fight it, be strong and let it go..

**pliny_2001** · February 11th, 2006, 01:31 PM

Don't be that guy. Never be that guy.

The Remix · February 11th, 2006, 02:10 PM

agreed with above - don't do it-

HapMak · February 11th, 2006, 02:30 PM

You know what, If you do decide to get something, make sure its REALLY SMALL and nothing too hectic. the goal is to acknowledge her and not to "sarinade" her(sorry, couldnt find the right word)

**timzombie** · February 11th, 2006, 02:46 PM

yeh getting her something may give the totally wrong impression. just be strong and continue moving on. be there for her if she needs you but you gotta get past this. sorry dude.

**Doughboy** · February 11th, 2006, 03:25 PM

Dont just get back with her because you want a date for Valentines. You are just going back for all the wrong reasons

sugar bearr · February 11th, 2006, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by pliny_2001

Don't be that guy. Never be that guy.

Exactly

sugar bearr · February 11th, 2006, 04:55 PM

If you really are trying to get over her you wouldnt get her anything. So if you want to let her know that as well, dont associate with her at all on V-day. Or it could all turn real quickly into D-day for you.

**mavgrad99** · February 11th, 2006, 05:20 PM

I totally agree with my EF brethren on this... resist the urge, ex's are just that... ex's, and it is for a reason right? I wouldnt go back to driving a p.o.s. car if I had a new one either... look forward, always look forward.

**Gman1524** · February 11th, 2006, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Doughboy

Dont just get back with her because you want a date for Valentines. You are just going back for all the wrong reasons

Bingo. Give that man a cigar.

tokyomikerichards · February 11th, 2006, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by jblrocks

with the day just around the corner...ive been having second thoughts on whatever I should give my ex-girlfriend anything.. I know it sounds stupid but this will be the first valentine's day that we arent together and I just feel that I need to get her something. I know that im moving on but like I still have a special place in my heart for her... A small card.. some chocolates something that will give her a smile... I mean were still friends and whatnot but lately shes been really nice to me so I feel that I need to give her something in return... Just wondering if this is a good idea or I should fight it, be strong and let it go..

Well, if you have bothered to post this question on a forum you already know it's wrong, and the way you phrase it makes that even more evident. All that people here will do is tell you what you are already aware of. Still, we probably all know how much it sucks to go through, so sympathy from Tokyo!

Killa_Z · February 11th, 2006, 09:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Gman1524

Bingo. Give that man a cigar.

*hands a cohiba to Doughy*

'save me some, that thing cost me a couple hundered $$$'

**mavgrad99** · February 11th, 2006, 10:02 PM

yo... killaz... cohiba you say??? puff, puff, pass... c'mon, your fockin up the rotation.

Killa_Z · February 12th, 2006, 01:38 PM

*coguh cough* did someone slip some endo in this???

**Doughboy** · February 12th, 2006, 03:05 PM

HIJACKING IN PROGRESS!!!
(This is some good ish though)

vinotinto · February 12th, 2006, 03:58 PM

You must forget the past,jblrocks.You had finished a relationship wich has no step back.Be reallistic. You must find for another and nicest WOMAN,not girl
The fact of give a present to your ex make you feel nostalgic,That shit is not good,man,Don't do it!!!!, Maybe she will put your present in the trash because she have to replace you now...

**Carlos_Hathcock** · February 12th, 2006, 06:20 PM

don't do it bro. I totall understand how you feel, I was running that issue through my head this weekend I'm still in love with this woman. but that's just it, she's an ex, and you don't have to feel obligated to do anything for her. Yes, you may have a lot of memories with her, but that's all they are, memories, not favors, not debts to her. Her b-day, that I'd understand, but I would also just limit it to a "happy b-day" phone call. Don't be getting her anything, cancel the singing midgets, and cancel the hotel room reservation. If she has been so nice to you lately it is probably because she doesn't want to be alone for V's Day, but what's gonna happen the day after?, think about that, I hate it when women use us. Like Crissy told me in a chat window a couple of days ago: "sometimes us women mistake a nice guy for being either weak or manipulative".

Here's what I think about Valentine's day:

V's day is the stupidest, corniest day of the year, it is nothing more than an excuse for flower companies, candy stores, jewelry stores, anyway etc... it is nothing more than a big excuse for people to sell crap. Why do we have to be friendly and loving only on Valentine's day? why not every day of the year? why not show our partners how much we love them and care about them every day?, instead of just once a year? Valentine's day is just a day to show off to other people how much money you have, how "suave, I hate this fucking word" you are, how smooth you are. it is a day made for posers and wannabes.

A good friend of mine sent me this, it is up to you what you want to make of it:

"As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back."

Can you tell I sound pissed off?

Peace.

**Carlos_Hathcock** · February 13th, 2006, 06:17 PM

Looking forward to see what happened.