My life blogs.

[Darren0901]

Nice thread Carlos, thanks

[Carlos_Hathcock]

***I just found this interesting...I found this posted on a friend's page...I am not saying that i agree or disagree, just saying that it is interesting***

how to keep the girls...

Do what you want...she likes it when you challenge her.

Let her know you dont care what her friends think of you.

Tell whoever doesnt like you in her family to fuck themselves. she will get mad, and then get wet.

Make her work. You want that Prada? I dont see a money tree growing in my backyard.

Go out with your boys without her. Let her know you dont need her all of the time.

Hold the door for her. Youre still a gentleman.

Talk to her respectfully. She is your girl.

If she talks to you with some bullshit, let her know she needs to shut the fuck up. Nothing wrong with putting her in her place.

Cook her dinner. Let her do the dishes. Its 50/50 this relationship thing, right?

Remember events..i.e. anniversary, birthday. etc.

NEVER let her know she hurt you. Remember, she needs you, not the other way around.

GUYS, REMEMBER THIS STUFF AND NO MATTER WHAT THE GIRLS SAY, YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL WORK OUT FOR THE BETTER. WHY? LOOK AT YOUR GRANDPARENTS...THEYRE STILL MARRIED AND GRANDMA ALWAYS KNEW HER ROLE IN THE RELATIONSHIP. TREAT HER LIKE A LADY, AND THERE ARENT ANY PROBLEMS. DONT LET HER TREAT YOU LIKE SHIT THOUGH. GRANDPA DIDNT STAND FOR IT AND NEITHER SHOULD YOU.

[Doughboy]

Originally Posted by Carlos_Hathcock

***I just found this interesting...I found this posted on a friend's page...I am not saying that i agree or disagree, just saying that it is interesting***

how to keep the girls...

Do what you want...she likes it when you challenge her.

Let her know you dont care what her friends think of you.

Tell whoever doesnt like you in her family to fuck themselves. she will get mad, and then get wet.

Make her work. You want that Prada? I dont see a money tree growing in my backyard.

Go out with your boys without her. Let her know you dont need her all of the time.

Hold the door for her. Youre still a gentleman.

Talk to her respectfully. She is your girl.

If she talks to you with some bullshit, let her know she needs to shut the fuck up. Nothing wrong with putting her in her place.

Cook her dinner. Let her do the dishes. Its 50/50 this relationship thing, right?

Remember events..i.e. anniversary, birthday. etc.

NEVER let her know she hurt you. Remember, she needs you, not the other way around.

GUYS, REMEMBER THIS STUFF AND NO MATTER WHAT THE GIRLS SAY, YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL WORK OUT FOR THE BETTER. WHY? LOOK AT YOUR GRANDPARENTS...THEYRE STILL MARRIED AND GRANDMA ALWAYS KNEW HER ROLE IN THE RELATIONSHIP. TREAT HER LIKE A LADY, AND THERE ARENT ANY PROBLEMS. DONT LET HER TREAT YOU LIKE SHIT THOUGH. GRANDPA DIDNT STAND FOR IT AND NEITHER SHOULD YOU.

Yes that is interesting.
You have talked to me enough to know if I agree or disagree.

[Carlos_Hathcock]

Soul-mates?


Here is why the "Soul-mate" theory is flawed:

1. If you state that there is one person for everyone, then that means you were meant to be with a certain someone... hence you have no say in the matter. That contradicts the free-will scenario most people believe in... hence your statement is already in fallacy.

2. Given certain events in life, you could have chosen to go to school out of state, worked somewhere else, been born to different parents, not born at all, or any other choices you've made. That could impact everything in your life.. including who you meet or dont meet. So because you end up with one person does not mean you would have ended up with that person given another scenario

3. Soul-mate implies you have a soul. A soul is something that cannot be proven, hence a soul-mate cannot be proven without first proving a soul. Prove to me you have a soul, then we can talk about a soul-mate

4. For sake of argument, lets assume we have souls. To imply we have a "second-half" to us is the same as saying we are incomplete. But if we are all god's creation, wouldn't we be complete to begin with? If we are not complete, then god is not omnipotent and flawed. Most people of faith agree god is both good and omnipotent.. hence we cannot have soul-mates because that would make god flawed.

5. Why are humans the only animals who bother with love? Any other animal in our earth goes by instinct when it comes to sex. Yet humans complicate things with a feeling that is no different chemically (chemical reactions in the brain) to a woman who eats chocolate.

[illiniballfan112]

uh uh uh....

reminds me of my first love

didn't talk to her for 4 years and now by chance about a week ago found out she was still "alive" and well going to our old college. tried to write her an email and have yet to hear back from her....she never was much for checking her university email, always goes through hotmail. or did she check it and just not care....i left things four years ago telling her i didn't care to talk to her anymore, but as much as you could be mad at someone i found out in life your heart always heals and still can love those you care about, no matter what.

great thread

[illiniballfan112]

Originally Posted by Carlos_Hathcock

Soul-mates?


Here is why the "Soul-mate" theory is flawed:

1. If you state that there is one person for everyone, then that means you were meant to be with a certain someone... hence you have no say in the matter. That contradicts the free-will scenario most people believe in... hence your statement is already in fallacy.

about that, the way i see it, is if we were meant for one and only soul mate in this world, how do you explain the sheer number of marriages in our world? you mean out of 4 billion people all these people that have been married were lucky enough to find their soul mates out of a 1 in 4 billion chance? maybe we each have like a couple 1000 "soul mates"....

or maybe that explains the high rate of divorce in our country? even as the rate is increasing since, say, the 1960's, maybe we're becoming smarter yet still allowing our society to pressure us initially into marriage with the wrong person, then realizing we didn't find our "soul mate"and later divorcing them?

[Doughboy]

In a way we have the same basic things like animals they just go about it differently. Human women go after the good provider, the mans man the one who can protect them and has great confidence. The alpha male. Same thing with animals the female animal wants the good provider the one who will bring her food and protect her and her kids. The alpha male who dominates over others with his great confidence and courage.

Granted we may as a culture surround all of it around bullshit but those basic ideals still apply to us humans.

[irish1416]

Originally Posted by Carlos_Hathcock

Soul-mates?
5. Why are humans the only animals who bother with love? Any other animal in our earth goes by instinct when it comes to sex. Yet humans complicate things with a feeling that is no different chemically (chemical reactions in the brain) to a woman who eats chocolate.

Are we the only creatures upon this earth that bother with love? What of eagles, who take a single mate for a lifetime, and other such creatures? Yes, I would most certainly agree that our brains are much more complex and much better able to comprehend the very notion of love, but can it be that there is some underlying parallel between what we term love and the instinct that causes such animals to choose a life time mate?

And is love really nothing more than a chemical reaction that can be duplicated by giving a woman chocolate....or is it lust that we are talking about?

[Carlos_Hathcock]

Irish, buddy, you read too much into things, must be our european heritage, I don't know, read my other thread in the lounge, about cheering me up.

[jumpman25]

Bravo, there is a lot of good stuff written in this thread.

[Carlos_Hathcock]

Watch your thoughts; they become your words. Watch your words; they become your actions. Watch your actions; they become your habits. Watch your habits; they become your character. Watch your character for it will become your destiny.

[Carlos_Hathcock]

From Kat:

Falling in Love

When you think of your past love, you may view it as a failure. But when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher. In the game of love, it doesn't matter who won or lost. What is important is you know when to hold on and when to let go! You know you really love someones when you want him or her to be happy, even if their happiness means that you're not part of it. Everything happens for the best.

If the person you love doesn't love you back, don't be afraid to love someone else again, for you'll never know unless you give it a try. You'll never love a person you love unless you risk for love. Love doesn't hurt all the time. Though the hurting is still there to test you, to help you grow. Don't find love, let love find you. That's why it's called falling in love because you don't force yourself to fall. You just fall. You cannot finish a book without closing it's chapters. If you want to go on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages.

Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. It is a lifetime venture in which we are always learning, discovering, and growing. The greatest irony of love is letting go when you need to hold on, and holding on when you need to let go. We lose someone we love only when we are destined to find someone else who can love us even more than we love ourselves. On falling out of love, take some time to heal and then get back on the horse. But don't ever make the same mistake of ridin the same one that threw you the first time.

To love is to risk rejection, to live to is risk dying, to hope is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is risk nothing! To reach for another is to risk involvement, to expose your feelings is to expose true self, to love is to risk not to be loved in return. How to define love: fall but do not stumble, be constant but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, hurt but never keep the pain.

Love is like a knife. It can stab the heart or it can carve wonderful images into the soul that always last for a lifetime. Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire you and give you joy and strength. But sometimes the things that give you joy can also hurt you in the end. Loving people means giving them the freedom who they choose to be and where they choose to be. For all the heartaches and the tears, for gloomy days and fruitless years, you should give thanks for you know, that there were the things that helped you grow.

Loving someone means giving him the freedom to find his way, whether it leads towards you or away from you. Love is a painful risk to take, but the risk must be taken no matter how scary or painful, for only then you'll experience the fullness of humanity, and that is love. Only love can hurt your heart, fill you with desire, and tear you apart.

Only love can make you cry and only love knows why. If you're not ready to cry, if you're not ready to take the risk, if you're not ready to feel the pain, then you're not ready to fall in love. There was a time in our lives when we became afraid to fall in love because everytime we do, we get hurt, then I figured that's why it's called falling in love.

[Carlos_Hathcock]

ASSHOLOGY/IDIOTLOGY When I stand up for myself and my beliefs, they call me an asshole, an idiot. When I stand up for those I love, they call me an asshole, an idiot. When I speak my mind, think my own thoughts or do things my own way, they call me an asshole, an idiot. Being an asshole or an idiot, means I won't compromise what's in my heart. It means I try to live my life MY way. It means I will try not to allow anyone to step on me. When I refuse to tolerate injustice and speak against it, I am defined as an asshole, an idiot. The same thing happens when I take time for myself instead of being everyone's toy, or when I act a little selfish. It means I have the courage and strength to allow myself to be who I truly am and won't become anyone else's idea of what they think I "should" be. I try to be outspoken, opinionated and determined. I want what I want and there is nothing wrong with that! So try to stop me, try to shit on my cereal, try to squash every ounce of strength I hold within me. You won't succeed. And if that makes me an asshole, an idiot, then so be it. I embrace the title and I'm proud to have it.

I'M AN IDIOT, AND AN ASSHOLE

[Doughboy]

Another one from CH (since he cant post)

MOMENTS IN LIFE -

There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams & hug them for real! When the door of happiness closes, another opens; but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one, which has been opened for us. Don't go for looks, they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone that makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile. Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life & one chance to do all the things you want to do. May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human & enough hope to make you happy. The happiest of people don't necessarily have everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures & heartaches. When you were born, you were crying & everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you are the one smiling & everyone around you is crying.

[Carlos_Hathcock]

MAKE NO MISTAKE, I'M NO LONGER THE NICE GUY AS IT NEVER PAYS OFF, BEING BAD AND EVIL GUY IS BETTER, I DIDN'T KNOW IT COULD BE THIS MUCH FUN.

Body: QUIT YOUR BITCHING AND OPEN YOUR EYES! HE'S RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU!



I'm sorry
That I was raised with respect
not to sleep with you when you were drunk

I'm sorry
That my body's not ripped enough
to "satisfy" your wants

I'm sorry
that I open your car door,
and pull out your chair like I was raised

I'm sorry
That I'm not cute enough
to be "your guy"

I'm sorry
That I am actually nice;
not an asshole

I'm sorry
I don't have a huge bank account
to buy you expensive things

I'm sorry
I like to spend quality nights at home
cuddling with you, instead of at a club

I'm sorry
I would rather make love to you then just f**k you
like all the other guys.

I'm sorry
That I am always the one you need to talk to,
but never good enough to date

I'm sorry
That I always held your hair back when you threw up,and didn't get mad at you for puking in my car,
but when we went out you went home with another guy


I'm sorry
That I am there to pick you up at 4am when your new man hit you and dropped you off in the middle of nowhere,
but not good enough to listen to me when I need a friend

I'm sorry
If I start not being there, and being used as a door mat, only to be thrown to the side when the new asshole comes around

I'm sorry
If I don't answer my phone anymore when you call, to listen to you cry for hours, instead of getting a couple hours of sleep before work

I'm sorry that you can't realize.. I've been the one all along.

I'm sorry
If you read this and know somebody like this
but don't care But most of all

I'm sorry
For not being sorry anymore

I'm sorry
That you can't accept me for who I am

I'm sorry
I can never do anything right, and nothing that I do is good
enough to make it in your world.

I'm sorry
I caught your bf with another girl and told you about it, I thought that was what friends were for...

I'm sorry
That I told you I loved you and actually meant it.

I'm sorry
That I talked to you for nine hours on Thanksgiving when your bf was threatening you instead of spending time with my family.

I'm Sorry
That i cared

I'm sorry
that I listen to you at night talk about how you wish you could have done something different.

Ladies always bitch and bitch to their friends that there are never any good guys out there, and they always end up with assholes who mistreat them. Well ladies next time you're bitching, maybe look up to see who you're bitching to, maybe that special someone is right there hanging on your every word as usual, screaming in his head "Why won't you give me a chance?"
Because the person you are usually searching for is right by you.

If you're a guy and you agree with this letter, repost as "if she only knew"


If You're one of the few girls with enough balls to repost, and you would never make your guy feel this way, repost as "To all the girls who look past the nice guys"

[irish1416]

Originally Posted by Carlos_Hathcock

MAKE NO MISTAKE, I'M NO LONGER THE NICE GUY AS IT NEVER PAYS OFF, BEING BAD AND EVIL GUY IS BETTER, I DIDN'T KNOW IT COULD BE THIS MUCH FUN.

Body: QUIT YOUR BITCHING AND OPEN YOUR EYES! HE'S RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU!



I'm sorry
That I was raised with respect
not to sleep with you when you were drunk

I'm sorry
That my body's not ripped enough
to "satisfy" your wants

I'm sorry
that I open your car door,
and pull out your chair like I was raised

I'm sorry
That I'm not cute enough
to be "your guy"

I'm sorry
That I am actually nice;
not an asshole

I'm sorry
I don't have a huge bank account
to buy you expensive things

I'm sorry
I like to spend quality nights at home
cuddling with you, instead of at a club

I'm sorry
I would rather make love to you then just f**k you
like all the other guys.

I'm sorry
That I am always the one you need to talk to,
but never good enough to date

I'm sorry
That I always held your hair back when you threw up,and didn't get mad at you for puking in my car,
but when we went out you went home with another guy


I'm sorry
That I am there to pick you up at 4am when your new man hit you and dropped you off in the middle of nowhere,
but not good enough to listen to me when I need a friend

I'm sorry
If I start not being there, and being used as a door mat, only to be thrown to the side when the new asshole comes around

I'm sorry
If I don't answer my phone anymore when you call, to listen to you cry for hours, instead of getting a couple hours of sleep before work

I'm sorry that you can't realize.. I've been the one all along.

I'm sorry
If you read this and know somebody like this
but don't care But most of all

I'm sorry
For not being sorry anymore

I'm sorry
That you can't accept me for who I am

I'm sorry
I can never do anything right, and nothing that I do is good
enough to make it in your world.

I'm sorry
I caught your bf with another girl and told you about it, I thought that was what friends were for...

I'm sorry
That I told you I loved you and actually meant it.

I'm sorry
That I talked to you for nine hours on Thanksgiving when your bf was threatening you instead of spending time with my family.

I'm Sorry
That i cared

I'm sorry
that I listen to you at night talk about how you wish you could have done something different.

Ladies always bitch and bitch to their friends that there are never any good guys out there, and they always end up with assholes who mistreat them. Well ladies next time you're bitching, maybe look up to see who you're bitching to, maybe that special someone is right there hanging on your every word as usual, screaming in his head "Why won't you give me a chance?"
Because the person you are usually searching for is right by you.

If you're a guy and you agree with this letter, repost as "if she only knew"


If You're one of the few girls with enough balls to repost, and you would never make your guy feel this way, repost as "To all the girls who look past the nice guys"

Try as you will, my war-weary friend, never will you stop being a nice guy.

Being a nice guy is not about holding the door for a girl, being there for her when the other assholes get her down, or buying her everything her heart desires. Looking back upon the years that I have experienced relationship pains similar to yours, I have begun to realize that being a nice guy is not even about how you treat the girl.

Rather, it is about how you treat yourself. Granted, as a nice guy, you put yourself through the pains that you have described above, and feel the burn of it every moment of every day. But the burn does not stop you. It takes all of your strength to get up every morning after being burnt, and you feel as though you simply cannot get yourself up another day; and yet, another day arrives, and you arise with it. You make the exact same mistakes again and again with women, and you see it coming, you see yourself doing it, and your cognizent of them as you commit them. And yet, you do it anyways.

Is it really for the girl?

Nay; at the risk of sounding somewhat egoistic and narcissistic, when we nice guys do such a thing, we do it for ourselves, and ourselves alone. We take solace in the fact that no matter what happens to us, we somehow have the strength to carry on, and often the strength to carry others, regardless of how thankless those others are. Again, because it is not about gratitude or recognition. It is about once more discovering what you are truly made of.

Some guys are made of wisps of thoughts and emotions that are little more than dust in the wind, and as a result, they change their course and their attitude as easily as the wind. Some guys fancy themselves made of steel, able to take anything that comes at them with a roar of strength and not an ounce of pain. The truth is, they feel no pain because their minds and their souls are made of nothing, and nothing is incapable of feeling pain.

We "nice guys", on the other hand, are made of something more; it is not steel, or rock, or any other finite material. We know not exactly what it is, but we know that it is strong, but not brittle; elsewise we would be as broken as the rest of the "assholes" out there. We know that it is rigid, but not impermeable; elsewise we would be as empty as the rest of the "assholes" out there. We know that it is there, it is immutable, indefatigable, indomitable, and invincible. And we know that we draw our strength from it.

From it we derive the strength that we need to stand up day after day and continue to be who we truly are: "nice guys". Everyday that we arise steadfast in our strength, we take the time, if only a mscant second, to reflect upon the fact that after all these years, we continue to live by the creedo of kindness, compassion, wisdom, respect, honor, and strength. We marvel at this achievement, as we have seen so many around us cave under pressure and shatter into empty existences, just like everyone else. And though we seen no end and no tangible benefit to the pain and frustrations that we subject ourselves to, we cannot help but be awed at the strength that we have demonstrated. That awe inspires us to continue living by our creedo, and test ourselves and our strength again and again and against the worst that this world is capable of throwing our way.

Along the way, we gain experience, wisdom, and a few bruises here and there. We temper ourselves and learn of our strength, and how best to employ it day after day. And at the end of that day, after all the beating that we have been subjected to, be it physical, emotional, mental, or otherwise, we gather up just enough strength to stand up and see ourselves in the mirror, and we slowly begin to understand what we have gained.

Do the other guys get laid more often? Obviously. Do they get tended to more often? Generally, yes. Do they have the looks that make girls swoon? Often. Are they fiscally wealthier? Sometimes. Are they real men? No. They have what they do because they fear to lose it, and so loathe to go out and understand that life is truly more than just getting laid and driving a Ferrari or what not. These so-called "men" are nothing but the illusion that they attempt to project with their puffery and their bragadaccio. See past those illusions, and they will fall to nothingness like so much dust in the wind.

In sharp contrast, those of us whom are refered to as "nice guys" continue to stand, independent of of our achievements because we understand that the worth of our lives and our actions lies not in our monetary achievements or our tawdry escapades, but in the actions themselves. Our ability to hold on to our honor, our wisdom, our intelligence, our kindness, our compassion, and our strength in the face of all adversity is where we derive our sense of self worth. It is not our tallies that matter, but rather our continued to defiance of the temptations to subvert ourselves and lower ourselves to the mud that gives us purpose and definition.

That is what it means to be a "nice guy".

Being a "nice guy" is not a badge of shame. It is a badge of honor, courage, respect, and self-derived divinity; it is far more significant than any patch on any jacket. Wear it as such. Stand up, and once more delve within yourself to find the strength to be whom you truly are: a nice guy.

And as for those that say that nice guys finish last, and believe themselves to be lightyears ahead of us, pity them. They may perceive themselves as being at the head of the race, but they do not correctly perceive what the race itself is; too many of them will realize this far too late, if at all, and when all is said and done, it is they who truly lose.

Good evening.

[Carlos_Hathcock]

I'm sorry Irish my brother, but... like I said, trying to live it honest and real has never paid off, not only has everyone always stayed a step ahead of me, but they've also managed to always find ways to rub it in... you feel me? as far as being evil... yeah, I'm probably taking it out on women, in no way am I hurting anyone physically, I promise, but I don't let anyone f**ck with me anymore, is not about getting laid, is about getting the respect that I've deserved, take for example, I was at a bar with some friends a couple of nights ago, just chilling, when I simply saw this hot red head walk by and all I said was "hi", the bitch tells me "oh you're gonna have to try harder than that" well my response to that was exactly "bitch do you fucking see anyone trying?" well fuck that, I told her off, I told her everything that was wrong with her, from the way she dressed to the way she moved, I basically made her look like a twat in front of everyone at the bar, just because I have not finished college doesn't mean that I don't know how to handle a smart conversation with anyone, anyway, she sits down, right across from my group, and stares at me all night, she even pulled one of my female friends to the side when she went to the bathroom, my friend just told her to not piss me off again... and what happens at the end of the night?, this dumb girl waits for me outside of the bar in the parking lot, she wants to exchange phone numbers.... in my buzzed stated of mind I concur, she calls me three hours later and wants to see me, I told her where I lived, I live in a gated community surrounded by a lake so I wasn't worried about her coming after me later. we did it, and I told her immediately to leave my house, that I don't want guests staying the night (it was already 4 am) I told her that I had to get up in the morning to go shopping with my mother for a barbeque that was gonna be done for me for coming back from iraq. the girl dares to tell me to just skip the day with my family and spend the day with her in bed. that's when I got her out of my bed and brought her down to her car and called security, I told her that the day a woman tries to make me decide between her or my family and friends will be the day I'll go to prison for killing her.

Needless to say she has called me repeatedly wanting to see me, I think I got myself a psycho stalker now.


CH

[huddie25]

Too often, we lose sight of life's simple pleasures. Remember, when
someone annoys you it takes 42 muscles in your face to frown, BUT,
it only takes 4 muscles to extend your arm and bitch-slap that
mother@#?!&! upside the head!!!

[Carlos_Hathcock]

Yo, you see what I mean, I picked up this bartender chick today at chilis, the server said that she thought I was cute. which I am by the way... he he he. anyway, she said to go talk to her, and I told her that she is the one interested in me, so she should come to the table, guess what, she did, I got her number and I'm picking her up to go to a house party in three hours.

Just thought I'd share this with you.

CH.

[Carlos_Hathcock]

well good thing we left the party earlier, here's why...

1. The girl was too tired, she left work at 2, she was passing out every couple of minutes, poor girl.

2. My best friend forgot to go to court for a DUI (dumb ass) and the police had a warrant for his arrest. (again dumb ass)

3. They had called a stripper for my one of my friend's bday, and for me, (for returning from Iraq).

is a good thing I left early with her, I'm seeing her again tomorrow.

CH.