My life blogs.

**Carlos_Hathcock** · February 12th, 2006, 06:32 PM

Ok guys, I have some things about life I'd like to share with you, I'm putting it in this section because most of them are about relationships, I must admit, I don't follow them most of the time.

Also, I did not come up with all of them, some of my friends wrote them too and gave me the ok to copy them. so here they are.

If someone wants you, nothing can keep them away.
If they don't want you, nothing can make them stay.
Stop making excuses for a someone and their behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for someone before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because that someone was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.
If you feel like they are stringing you along, then they probably are.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid someone who's got a bunch of children by a bunch of different partners, they didn't get married when they were pregnant, why would they treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from theirs.
Maintain boundaries in how they treat you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let that someone know everything, they will use it against you later.
You cannot change someone's behavior, change comes from within.
Don't EVER make them feel they are more important than you are... even if they have more education or in a better job.
Do not make them into a quasi-god(ess), they are human, nothing more nothing less.
Never let someone define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man or woman.
If they cheated with you, they'll cheat on you.
A person will only treat you the way you ALLOW them to treat you.
You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage...
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... Look for someone complimentary... not supplementary.
Dating is fun... even if they don't turn out to be Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Make them miss you sometimes... when they always know where you are, and you're always readily available to them, they take it for granted.
Never move into their parents' house.
Never co-sign for them.
Don't commit to someone who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep them in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other women and men, You'll make someone smile, another rethink her/his choices, and others to prepare and to be aware.

**Carlos_Hathcock** · February 12th, 2006, 06:32 PM

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

**Carlos_Hathcock** · February 12th, 2006, 06:33 PM

To The Nice Guyz..
To every guy that cooks dinner for her.
To every guy that regrets hurting her.
To every guy who knows which girl he wants.
To every guy that's said, "Sex can wait."
To every guy that's said, "You're beautiful."
To every guy that was never too busy to drive across town to see her.
To every guy that gives flowers and a card when she is sick.
To every guy who has given her flowers just because.
To every guy that said he would die for her.
To every guy that really would.
To every guy that did what she wanted to do.
To every guy that cried in front of her.
To every guy that she cried in front of.
To every guy that holds hands with her.
To every guy that kisses her with meaning.
To every guy that hugs her when she's sad.
To every guy that hugs her for no reason at all.
To every guy who would give their jacket up.
To every guy that calls to make sure she got home safe.
To every guy that would sit and wait for her for hours just to be able to see her for ten minutes.
To every guy that would give his seat up.
To every guy that just wants to cuddle.
To every guy that reassured her that she was beautiful no matter what.
To every guy who told his secrets to her.
To every guy that tried to show how much he cared through every word and every breath.
To every guy that thought maybe this could be the one.
To every guy that believed in her dreams.
To every guy that would have done anything so she could achieve them.
To every guy that never laughed at her when she told him her dreams.
To every guy that walked her to her car.
To every guy that wasn't just trying to get laid.
To every guy that actually listened.
To every guy that gave his heart only to have it shoved back in his face.
To every guy that prays that she is happy even if you are not with her.

This one's for you...

**Carlos_Hathcock** · February 12th, 2006, 06:34 PM

I'm writing
this letter to tell you

I don't love you anymore.

I don't miss you.

I never have.

The truth is, I
tried, but never found
your adoration
anything other than arduous,

your niceties cliched,

your praise thoughtless,

and it has become
unbearably obvious
that you love with
all the originality
of romance novels;

the manly man weakening
the luscious flower.

But do not be sad,
nothing is lost,
neither of us even loved
the other truly-
you only thought you did
and I only wanted to.

Jewel Kilcher.

**Carlos_Hathcock** · February 12th, 2006, 06:35 PM

Can someone tell me who wrote this song?, Someone sent it to me. Never seen words put together so perfectly.

You look so fine
I want to break your heart
And give you mine
You're taking me over

It's so insane
You've got me tethered and chained
I hear your name
And I'm falling over

I'm not like all the other girls
I can't take it like the other girls
I won't share it like the other girls
That you used to know

You look so fine

Knocked down
Cried out
Been down just to find out
I'm through
Bleeding for you

I'm open wide
I want to take you home
We'll waste some time
You're the only one for me

You look so fine
I'm like the desert tonight
Leave her behind
If you want to show me

I'm not like all the other girls
I won't take it like the other girls
I won't fake it like the other girls
That you used to know

You're taking me over
Over and over
I'm falling over
Over and over

You're taking me over
Drown in me one more time
Hide inside me tonight
Do what you want to do
Just pretend happy end
Let me know let it show

Ending with letting go [3x]

Let's pretend, happy end [4x]

**Carlos_Hathcock** · February 12th, 2006, 06:35 PM

THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE:

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to
take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.

They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (any way); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.(3/2000)

Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
Dance like nobody's watching. (6/99)

*
Few people have sent me different versions of "What Love Is" here it is one of the versions: (5/99)

I've learned-that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who can be loved.
The rest is up to them.

I've learned- that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I've learned-that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned- that it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned-that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better know something.

I've learned-that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do.

I've learned- that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I've learned-that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I've learned-that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned- that you can keep going long after you can't.

I've learned-that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I've learned- that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I've learned- that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I've learned-that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I've learned-that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned-that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I've learned-that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned-that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I've learned-that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I've learned-that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I've learned-that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it

I've learned-that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned-that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned-that no matter how badly your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned-that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned-that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I've learned-that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could
change your life forever.

I've learned-that two people can look at the exact same thing and see
something totally different.

I've learned-that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I've learned-that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I've learned-that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I've learned-that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I've learned-that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

I've learned-that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.

Send this to all the people in whom you have faith. "Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you care for them."

**Doughboy** · February 12th, 2006, 07:02 PM

*Reads the thread, gets up from his computer chair and claps*
*Everyone looks at him weird but he still claps anyway*
*Bows down to the threadstarter and sits back down*

**Carlos_Hathcock** · February 12th, 2006, 07:03 PM

Thanks dough.

**irish1416** · February 12th, 2006, 07:43 PM

I am speechless. This was a great idea, and a lot of great advice. I say make it a sticky, so that people can always read it.

Nice post, carlos!

**Carlos_Hathcock** · February 12th, 2006, 07:55 PM

well, ask the mods if it is ok, I don't have the power to do that.

bluebird · February 12th, 2006, 10:01 PM

Beautiful.

Major reps for you...well, *A* rep anyway.:-) Hold on, I believe I can rep EACH post, but I must spread some around first. ....hmmm...got yer reps here, anyone?

Seriously, brilliant posts, brilliant thread.

**engr** · February 13th, 2006, 08:49 AM

Lot's of good stuff there Carlos, who knew that the hitman had such a big heart...

**Justsomedude** · February 13th, 2006, 09:38 AM

Very good, Calros

That's really hitting the nail on the head, my man

**raijin1** · February 13th, 2006, 12:08 PM

Wow... I am glad I took the time to read this thread. There is wisdom in here that many people will spend much time and money looking for, and perhaps never find. My hats off to you Carlos.

E-Jay · February 13th, 2006, 05:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Carlos_Hathcock

To every guy that prays that she is happy even if you are not with her.

That's exactly mine...loving someone is not wanting their body, its wanting them to be happy, even when its not what you want. Because seeing her happy is what make you happy more than anyhting.

**Gman1524** · February 13th, 2006, 05:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by irish1416

I am speechless. This was a great idea, and a lot of great advice. I say make it a sticky, so that people can always read it.

Nice post, carlos!

Done.

**Carlos_Hathcock** · February 13th, 2006, 08:56 PM

Thanks G-cat.

Killa_Z · February 21st, 2006, 03:49 PM

thread of the year for this section

haha doughy, like the first reply, made me laugh

**Carlos_Hathcock** · March 26th, 2006, 06:01 PM

Careful... he (or she) could be USING you.

For a woman, that usually means sex, sex, sex. (If you think you're OK with that, you may regret it.) The female brain manufactures a "love" molecule (known as "oxytoxin") which infiltrates her physical relationships, causing an emotional "bond" even when she thinks she's being cool. (So if you're female, you could wind up falling for The Creep, shortly after sex.)

If you're a man, a female-user could be pursuing your money or status. (Or, in some cases, sex.) If you're happy with that, think twice. It could mean an unwanted pregnancy, a "jadedness" about sex, or a trip to The Poor House. At the very least, you'll be hurt, hurt, hurt.

If you think you can "change" him or her...you're wrong. That's a universal mistake people make...but, the truth is, love (when it's ONE-sided) DOESN'T conquer all. It just conquers you.

If you look deep, you may realize you've been involved with your user because of a fear of being alone. But, look at it THIS way: cutting loose from him (or her) can serve as a NEW opportunity...to find someone you DESERVE.

**Carlos_Hathcock** · March 26th, 2006, 10:49 PM

"How Could You" Mario

[Verse:]
It's kinda crazy baby,
How I remember things, (like where you came from and how you had nothin)
I went and made you fly,
Put extras on your ride, (didn't miss a birthday now u cant even remember mine)

[Hook:]
U made it clear to me (you wasn't down for me),
(Love made me blind, baby) but now I see,
(you had things up your sleeve, dont even lie to me) I even heard it from your family,

[Chorus:]
How could you let somebody lay where I layed?
How could you give him everything that we made?
How could you call him all the names that you used to call me?
How could You How Could You just forget about me?
How Could You teach him all the things I taught You?
How Could You put him up to the Ghetto Kama Sutra?
How Could You put me in the back and give him the front seat?
How Could You How Could You just forget about me?

[Verse:]
You must be out ya mind,
You got alot of nerve (to think that im gone chill after all the shit I heard),
I damn near carried you,
I could've married you,
Good thing I found out before I bought that 7 karat for ya,
(I kno ur sick about) the way I found you out,
(GO head and pack it out) I hope he's got room in his house,
You should have thought of me b4 you hopped in the sheets,
Damn I cant believe that u did this to me

[Chorus]

[Bridge:]
Girl I tried to give u everything,
Can't believe the ways u repaid me,
Girl u had it all,
But I guess my all wasn't good enough for you,
Baby I've accepted it,
And I aint gone trip,
Girl im movin on,
Sometimes I cant help but think that another man's gonna get the one I made for me

[Chorus]

How could you let somebody lay where I layed?
How could you give him everything that we made?
How could you call him all the names that you used to call me?
How could you, How could you just forget about me?
How could you teach him all the things I taught you??
How could you put him up to the Ghetto Kama Sutra??