meeting the ex

[xdax]

Ok, i'm meeting my ex for a casual coffee in the next few weeks, we havent decided when exactly. The thing is i want her back. I want your advice on what to do.
The other thing is i asked her back before and she said no, she is going to travel. Now she is not going to do that she signed up for another 9 month contract with her job etc.
So how do i plant a seed in her head that i'm worth another shot. Talk about the good ole times maybe, maybe not as the bad ole times might come up also?
tell her about how great my life is?
incessantly compliment her? as far as i know she aint seeing anyone so probably no one else is doing this in her life.
Or just let the conversation evolve naturally
I dont know
help please

[ATLien]

Hey xdax,

First of all, you should really analyze the situation and figure out if getting back together with the ex is the best thing for you and for her. Secondly, think very hard about why you really want her back and then openly approach her with those reasons. From my experience, I've had much more luck directly attending to my agenda rather than hoping for things to slowly evolve.

Balls to the wall man.

[User Name]

The fact that she is willing to meet you is a good sign.

I would see what happens . . . if it goes well, you could always ask her out on a date "Hey I have some tickets for a show/game/event/etc" (something that she would like) and see if she is receptive.

Or you could go the overt route and just tell her you want to go out with her again and she what her reaction is. I met this one girl once who really did it for me. She was dating someone else at the time, but went out to dinner with me. I just went for it and told her that I would love to date her. A few months later the phone rang. So sometimes it is worth it to find the courage within to just go for it.

[sucher67]

I have often seen men spend so much time interpreting "signs" and signals that that they ignore what their women say. If she says she doesn't want to travel, then that means that she doesn't want to travel-- she doesn't want a long distance realtionship. If you want to have a relationship with her, then keep it real and be willing to compromise on the distance issue.

I don't know how far apart you both are, but if you want her badly enough, let her know that you will consider relocating if that is the major thing keeping you both apart. If not, then there is no "seed you can plant;" it sounds like she has made up her mind.

[xdax]

sucher67, i cant relocate. i work in a family business. but i would be willing to have her travel and drop out for a week every few months, thats the best compromise i can do there.

[joker13]

If its long distance and already failed once i wouldn't push it again. Tell her you miss her you miss her and see what she says. But i would let it go because it sounds like more trouble then it is worth.

[True Brit]

Your ex is an ex for areason,In all honesty mate its best left well alone,when you have split up once it doesn't usualy work mate,I should know i have been married 3 times LOL.