i need help with finding the girl i like

hellodeath1 · September 24th, 2007, 11:43 AM

Last year i used to go to College. I liked a girl who used to get on the same College bus as me. I began to develop a crush on this girl towards the end of the College year. Over the Summer the crush began to fade. But i have begun to develop the crush again even though i haven't seen the girl for over a year. I know from past experiences that once i start to develop a serious crush then theres virtually no hope of me talking to the girl, mainly because the nerves i get become amplified. Anyhow, i would like to meet up with this girl but i have very little information about her. I don't know if she still goes to College or whether she's gone to a University. I know that she lives in a small town about 30 mins from where i live. I think i know her first name??. I have tried asking another girl ,that used to get on the same bus, about the girl i like on an internet socializing site. But nothing has come of that. I could try and find out from other people who got on the bus or even go to the College?. Can someone help me please before the crush becomes to intense. Thanks

**mooshue** · September 24th, 2007, 12:07 PM

i dont know about anyone else, but if i was this girl that you never talked to or even knew my name, id be petrified of you and call the police immediately if you showed up or started calling me. That is some stalker shit right there my friend. I know what you mean about crushes coming back later on, but your opportunity was missed when you chose to do nothing back then.

**wildstang** · September 24th, 2007, 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by hellodeath1

Last year i used to go to College. I liked a girl who used to get on the same College bus as me. I began to develop a crush on this girl towards the end of the College year. Over the Summer the crush began to fade. But i have begun to develop the crush again even though i haven't seen the girl for over a year. I know from past experiences that once i start to develop a serious crush then theres virtually no hope of me talking to the girl, mainly because the nerves i get become amplified. Anyhow, i would like to meet up with this girl but i have very little information about her. I don't know if she still goes to College or whether she's gone to a University. I know that she lives in a small town about 30 mins from where i live. I think i know her first name??. I have tried asking another girl ,that used to get on the same bus, about the girl i like on an internet socializing site. But nothing has come of that. I could try and find out from other people who got on the bus or even go to the College?. Can someone help me please before the crush becomes to intense. Thanks

how are we to help you when you state your crush hinders your ability to talk to her? first off you need to get a grip on reality and realize she is just another person, albeit a female but you shouldnt be intimidated by her or her beauty. you need to just suck it up and approach her and strike up a conversation if you cross paths with her again or you will be stuck in this situation if you do nothing! by all meens do not stalk her! you will freak the sheot!!! out of her! you have to choices the way i see it, one make contact and have a conversation with her, or 2........forget her! it sounds to me your either overly shy or lack confidence. either way both of those you need to address on your own. nobody here can do it for you.

**pliny_2001** · September 24th, 2007, 12:39 PM

Yeah, as an uninterested observer I've got to say that you've crossed way into the creepy zone. Don't try to contact her, or stalk her, or find out more information about her. Really - this kind of behavior is way outside of the normal "I have a crush" stuff. And the username doesn't help.

Think about it from her point of view: a guy she doesn't know, whose primary connection to her is that they used to ride the same bus, finds out where she lives or where her new school is, and then tries to get in touch with her. Assuming that the two of you don't have friends in common (like "hi, I only know you from seeing you around campus so I never said hi, but I found out that we're both good friends with Shelly, and she gave me your email, so I wanted to finally say hi, etc" - note the "good friends" part) which - to be honest - would be kind of a money move, she deserves to be scared of you. If my g/f told me this story, stuff would go on lockdown until the threat was lessened. For reals.

On a more helpful note, I'll re-iterate what wildstang said, too - you need to build up some self-confidence. Find out what you enjoy, develop skills that you're proud of, spend some time outside of your comfort zones. Stop thinking about people that you haven't talked to on the bus, and work on yourself for a bit. In the process of improving yourself, you'll meet new people and become more comfortable talking to the prettier ones. So things will get better in so many ways.

But seriously - DO NOT continue trying to contact this girl. From what I've seen, that scenario only's going to end well in movies, and not even most of them.

hellodeath1 · September 24th, 2007, 02:35 PM

I am no stalker and i don't intend on searching around for her. I have spoken to her once before, she seemed quite shy. And yes i do have a serious confidence issue.

**cujo-1** · September 24th, 2007, 04:33 PM

hellodeath? why did you pick such a grisly screen name? is there some deep seated bad thoughts your having also? seems theres more to it then meets the eye!

**Eva** · September 24th, 2007, 05:35 PM

i'm wondering how old you are hun

Jake15 · September 24th, 2007, 06:05 PM

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Originally Posted by mooshue

i dont know about anyone else, but if i was this girl that you never talked to or even knew my name, id be petrified of you and call the police immediately if you showed up or started calling me. That is some stalker shit right there my friend. I know what you mean about crushes coming back later on, but your opportunity was missed when you chose to do nothing back then.

pretty much. thats kinda creepy bro no offence.

how do you know this info like her name and where she lives if you never talked to her? i would stay away from this girl if i were you it sounds like trouble for you and her

**cujo-1** · September 24th, 2007, 08:40 PM

well if you do meet up sometime down the road if you dont at least say hi politely and try a conversation from that your wasting your time dreaming of her!

**pliny_2001** · September 24th, 2007, 09:46 PM

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Originally Posted by hellodeath1

I am no stalker and i don't intend on searching around for her. I have spoken to her once before, she seemed quite shy. And yes i do have a serious confidence issue.

Acknowledging a weakness is the first step in defeating it. Seriously - take my advice about working on yourself and don't worry about girls for a bit. If you don't know yourself, you're not going to be able to present girls with a good reason to talk/go out/fall in hopeless love with you.

I'm actually willing to guarantee you that when your confidence issues are worked out, the quality of your life will get much, much better. Good luck, and subsequent posters - I doubt if there's more need to pile on with stating the obvious re: stalking.

jorcaryvan · September 25th, 2007, 12:18 AM

Don't listen to them. By all means stalk her. I found it to be very gratifiying.

Of course all that was before I was thrown into jail

*Joking....maybe not.

**mavgrad99** · September 25th, 2007, 12:35 AM

just be yourself, and if she doesnt like you for that then fock her!