problem with some gurls

-devil- · December 7th, 2007, 09:30 PM

Hi , i'm addressing this issue here that is considering me ..hoping to get advices cuz its very critical in my life ..

It started when i met my first girl friend. first of all, when i told her to come to my car, i felt something weird that would make me like throw up..! and like im soo tensed! it was a werid feeling that from that moments until now i get it.

now even sometimes when i'l meet a gurl.. or have a normal date.. i get this feeling of throwing up and it really causes me troubles! i cant even eat with her when we'r out! ( i do, then i throw up, i get back to normal state then eat again) its very weird plz i need advices to continue my life normaly and i hope i posted this in the right place.

thanks.

**tooncesthecat** · December 7th, 2007, 10:52 PM

Well, we meet again. I see you DID post your girl question here, so you're off to a good start. As for an answer to your question...it sounds like you are quite anxious around her. I used to be the same way, but never to the extent you are describing (with the puking and stuff). Damn, bro! Anyway, you just need to take things nice and slow with her. Are you worried about intimacy? This could be sex or simply being close to her both physically and emotionally. Are you able to have good conversation with her or are you stumbling around with your words?

**Insex** · December 8th, 2007, 01:03 AM

Your name wouldn't happen to be Stan Marsh, would it?

I kid, I kid. I'm not sure how to help you there. Just try to get used to hanging out with girls more often, then you should no longer feel nauseous around them anymore.

Also, does this always happen with girls you meet? Or does it happen during critical situations in your life, like receiving bad news, before taking an important test, getting ready for a game/competition, ect.?

-devil- · December 8th, 2007, 09:49 AM

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Originally Posted by tooncesthecat

Well, we meet again. I see you DID post your girl question here, so you're off to a good start. As for an answer to your question...it sounds like you are quite anxious around her. I used to be the same way, but never to the extent you are describing (with the puking and stuff). Damn, bro! Anyway, you just need to take things nice and slow with her. Are you worried about intimacy? This could be sex or simply being close to her both physically and emotionally. Are you able to have good conversation with her or are you stumbling around with your words?

Well ty for your reply again

, actually yes correct i feel like worried of something unknown! and that i cant have normal conversation! i'll even tell you more about it. Even now it got worst, While i eat if a gurl called that i like or we had some past togather, i get this feeling too.

I'll tell you a story, now before a couple of days, there's this gurl i like alot she's pretty and all. But i feel that she called to make fun cuz it was on speaker and that her friend was laughing in the backroun cuz she knows that i get tensed and starts to talk so sweet to the extent she feels its NOT normal.

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Also, does this always happen with girls you meet? Or does it happen during critical situations in your life, like receiving bad news, before taking an important test, getting ready for a game/competition, ect.?

well, thanks bro nice picture. Yes thats right too, but with gurls that i know and had a past with or a new one that i just met but its like stable and not to the extend of throwing up lol. The other thing you said is

very correct, yes it gets wrost when i have something up or she's telling me a bad news!

-devil- · December 8th, 2007, 09:54 AM

so, any ideas

**tooncesthecat** · December 8th, 2007, 11:31 AM

If this girl is laughing at you or you think she is being insincere, then go find a new girl. Better yet, don't go "looking" for Miss Right, just be a really nice and fun guy. The girls who are really cool will see this and start to hang out with you. If you are interested, try being a really good friend for a while, then if things progress, you should feel much more at ease. If the girl likes you for being you, you've got nothing to worry about. You'll do great!

**johnny_on_the_spot** · December 9th, 2007, 01:34 AM

not to put this rudely, but seek professional help. talk to someone about your anxiety and see what they say. this sounds like a problem that is a little too complex for random people on a forum (not that everyone doesnt give good advice, but you may need some pharmaceuticals or something for anxiety)

**wildstang** · December 9th, 2007, 10:49 PM

now i take it she dosent have bad B.O. or breath when you said that about throwing up....lol all kidding aside, your just over reacting being new in a relationship id say. with time these feelings your having will subside. the only advice i can offer is think of something calming to you when with her or others you get this way with and convince yourself over time theres nothing to be intimidated over about her, shes just another person after all.

**chuckg** · December 10th, 2007, 09:39 AM

IMHO, it sort of sounds like an anxiety disorder. If this is happening with all girls, you might want to speak to a physician about it.

I'm speaking from experience, as my middle son had a similar problem that only broadened to other areas.

Gastankerdriver · December 14th, 2007, 11:33 AM

Yes, I agree with "Johnny on the spot." This is an issue that requires a professional. The problem could be physical (perfume or something that triggers nausea, or allergic reaction.) It could be emotional (possibly someone with a history of abusive relationships.) It could be mental or psychological. (????) Clearly out of my realm of amatuer expertise. The problem can most likely be solved, but please consult a physician or professional counselor of some sort. I wish I could help more.