Goin' Insane!

**theatrain** · December 27th, 2007, 12:48 AM

I posted a while ago on here about how my g/f and I were having some troubles. Now I know I fucked up (Hooked up with another girl while we were taking a break, as well as her hooking up with another guy.. or something close to it) Anyway. The girl used to date an ex friend of mine. Some kid I was pretty good friends with a few years prior, as far as I knew they only dated 6months or so and constantly had problems. Anyhow, one night a friend of mine and I are locked out of his place and I was staying with him because my family had gone on a trip. This girl randomly called me and I explained our situation, she said we could stop by for a while.. and we did.. I asked her how things were going with the guy I used to hangout with and her.. she immediately grew disgusted and said "Ugh, him? I don't wanna talk about it.. lets just say we haven't talked in about 4months and won't talk for about my whole life".. I asked why, she explained he cheated on her with 5 girls or something and made it clear she would never get back with him let alone talk to the guy.

Anyway, my friend fell asleep on her couch and she asked me if I wanted to come in her room to watch a movie I said sure cause I wasnt tired and watching my friend sleep was not exactly appealing.. We got in her room, she immediately pulled down my pants and started using her mouth.. One thing lead to another and all was said and done. The only thing I have to admit here as after performing oral she hoped on top of me without a condom, after about 10 seconds or so 15 seconds maybe i gained my wits back and said no no no, we need a condom. so we used one..

The next day I see coincidently see the guy I used to hang around and he explained how just that afternoon him and the girl got back together and he was so happy because he never expected her to forgive him for the girls he cheated with.. well I was thinking 2 things at the time. 1) My sex must have been horrible and 2) Wow, I feel so fricken guilty.. I feel like I basically had sex with his girlfriend and theres no way I could ever explain to him that she told me they were completly done.. he just wouldn't beleive it and I'll feel like an asshole for even thinking about what i did much less admitting it to him, her boyfriend again.

Its been somewhere between 4 and 6 months. ( I don't remember the exact month it happened. It was sometime during the summer, so if it was in the middle of the summer lets say mid-july.)

Well just tonight I got a phone call from a friend who I care about a lot (its a girl) and I care about her opinion of me greatly, I really love this girl(platonic) shes always been here for me when I was having a shitty day and she hates the girl and she asked me. I denied it and said simply no and i would talk to her later cause i was with a lot of people and it wasn't something i wanted to discuss in front of people. Anyway she said okay, well give me a call tommorow cause that dumb girl is going around saying she had sex with you and she thought she was pregnant with your baby... MY HEART DROPPED! I felt like throwing up. I'm going crazy man!

Its been between 4 and 6 months.. why is she just now suspecting of pregnancy? If its true I'm gonna lose the girl I'm trying to fix things with, even though I called her right away and I told her everything (She already knew what happened with the girl) and I told her I'm so sorry, she told me she'll be here no matter what.. but i know how hard things would be if it is true. Also on top of that I'm 19.. I'll be flat broke.. Even if shes not pregnant I'm gonna lose my friend thats a girl the one who called and asked because she will think so low of me for having sex with her.. Also, everyones basically gonna be thinking I had sex with this guys girlfriend which ISNT THE CASE. SHE TOLD ME THEY HAND TALKED IN 4-5 MONTHS AND NEVER WOULD AGAIN!

Listen guys, I'm not looking for sympathy.
I know what I did was wrong. I shouldn't have had sex with the girl in the first place, but when a girl pulls down your pants and starts doing whatever whatever.. its hard to say no. I guess I just wanted to get this off my chest because right now I can't talk to anyone besides my g/f about this... and right now all shes doing is crying/being quiet.

Frick man. Am I a peice of $HIT for having sex with her? I sure feel like it.. I can't just expect the excuse "Well she told me this and this..." thats not gonna cover it man.

Thank you for letting me vent.

**PythonPower** · December 27th, 2007, 01:48 AM

Jerry Jerry Jerry! LOL.

ok now thats out of the way. lay low. dont run around like a chicken with a head cut off. cool your jets. do not get in any kind of contact with her. IF she really is pregnant, she waited past the point for a reason so that she wouldnt get an abortion., assuming IF that baby is even yours.

Under no circumstances you should make any contact with her period. anyone inquires...its none of their business.

IF your guy friend asks, yes its true. tell him what happened and that it. If he comes after you, defend yourself with extreme prejudice and hold your ground. Then walk away.

IF the baby comes, and she shows up at your house, DO NOT give her one red cent! DO NOT. chances are its not even yours. Demand a paternity test. if need be, get a lawyer. yes its gonna cost you, but its an important lesson you will learn from this all i.e. keep it in your pants! LOL. i know a little too late but, this is what the situation calls for.

Until she makes the baby take the paternity test, NO CONTACT. period. end of story.

IF the baby is yours, do the right thing.

thats all...my two cents.

**championofnight** · December 27th, 2007, 01:52 AM

Hey man im never been in a situation that is quite like your own, but i do know that if its forgiveness you seek, you should take it up with Christ. You have the option of being forgiven if you simply ask Him to forgive you.

Your right nothing you say will wipe away what you did but the good news is Jesus Christ can and will if you ask him to.

Your not a peice of shyte, listen if a girl just pulled down my pants all that willpower i claim to have would no longer be delegated to resisting the temptation- a new goal would pop in my head and the willpower would be applied to that. It is a sad thing, man, as christian as i want to be, I AM WEAK.
And make no mistake, my only hope in this life time and the next is through Jesus Christ.

i beleive any guy in that situation would succumb. Its the attack of lilith, lol, for those who are familiar with the name.

I have not been in your situation, but i do know that if ever you need help, God's there, man.

**theatrain** · December 27th, 2007, 02:01 AM

The thing thats messed up is I did ask for forgiveness.. Remember Champ in your post called "Need Advice" I talked about a one night stand which I asked for forgivenes.. Well this was it..

This is just fricken shitty that its happening to me right when things are starting to workout between my gf and I. I don't even know if these things are true because the friend who called me was at a party and all the people there were drunk so it could be just a drunk rumour.. and her words were slurred but she said "Yeah, she said she thot she was pregnant by you" It was loud at the party she was at but she definitley said "Yeah, she said she thought she was pregnant by you"... if she said "I thought I was pregnant by him" that makes me think well she figured out she isnt..

Dude. I'm getting rid of my penis, this thing gets me into too much trouble!

Well, not getting rid of it, but hes staying tucked tightly between my legs until wedding night

**championofnight** · December 27th, 2007, 03:35 AM

lol, more power to you if you are capable of doing that. I beleive through Christ's power you can choose to be celibate (from this point forward) until you find the right one.

If you ask for forgiveness, God has already forgiven you. It is not a governmental system where sins and offenses take time to process. It is instant, and some would argue, precognitive. Truly, If your with God then you should not waste one second of your time worrying about your wrongs. The world's wrongs were already taken care of 2,000 years ago with Christ's death on the cross. God took care of it with one fell swoop. Tell me he lacks the power to just pick you up out of this mess and put you back into pleasant feilds.

**PythonPower** · December 27th, 2007, 04:39 AM

dude...can she perhaps...accidentally fall down the stairs?

she is trying to trap you. you gotta outsmart this bitch. if u have to take her ass in an alley and take care of some busines...shit i would if some broad tried to trap me like this. fuck that shit

**theatrain** · December 27th, 2007, 07:45 AM

Champ - thanks, the forgivness thing is the least of my worries right now. I know I've been forgiven for it, I just don't want this girl to really be pregnant.. It'll make my fkn life a living hell

PythonPower - although your last post gave me a laugh. Its not the practical way for me to go about my situation lol. And when I read my post over again I also got visions of jerry springer lol!

Even tho it wa against your advice python, I tried contacting her. Although I did it b4 even posting this thread up. She just now replied to my message saying. Wtf? No, I've never said none of that and idk where people are getting those ideas. I'm really sorry and I didn't mean for you to have to deal with ppls bullcrap.

She didn't say anything about the pregnancy. Wheather it was true or not true or even if she was un sure, but her tone of .. Email? Lol... it didn't seem like she was worried or anything. So idk.

**pliny_2001** · December 27th, 2007, 10:44 AM

My $.02

You need new friends. Immediately.

New girlfriends, platonic friends, drinking friends - pretty much never contact anyone in your address book again except for family (and you may wish to limit that as much as possible).

These people are not your friends. They are into drama more than friendship. Leave them before you get permanently stuck in their drama (a kid would do that).

I'll leave the forgiveness part up to those who are into it, and modify Python just by saying that judges are often strongly against guys who have nothing to do with their children/baby-mommas - - and that this is often manifested by outsize support claims. While this should not be construed as legal advice, nor should a reader think that there is any privilege attached to this communication, if there is a kid you need to lawyer up immediately, and get a paternity test (preferably pre-natal). But I don't think there's a kid, based on what you posted.

Just get away immediately.

**gunshowbabe** · December 27th, 2007, 11:13 AM

You know what, what happened happened. You know that she didn't have a boyfriend, you know exactly what happened. Honestly I understand what you mean about it coming off the wrong way to people, but I don't think in that situation you did anything wrong... You didn't have a gf and she didn't have a bf (unless she lied to you) and when you are in highschool or fresh out, everyone dates eachother anyway--- It's not like you guys were close at the time. As far as your friend, if she gets mad at you over this I wouldn't consider her as good of a friend as you claim... It's silly when you aren't "supposed to" like somebody because someone else does't like them, unless they did something personally to you or something completely unhumain, I think it's stupid. Any way- I know how the drama can be so if it bothers you that much and you really consider this guy your good friend... there are two thoughts... 1) then why did you let it happen? seriously. I'm sure it didn't happen THAT fast! 2) if it bothers you that much, then tell him and get it off your chest.

Otherwise I would just lay low and avoid the topic, I'm sure their relationship is nothing serious... Just a bunch of drama.

**theatrain** · December 27th, 2007, 12:07 PM

Yeah pliny you're right drama is never good and this girl would bring a lot to my life.

I spoke to her and she's not pregnant. The people who found out it happened just blew up the situation and started running their mouths. She said some girl she used t be friends with got mad at her and started talking trash cause they were in an arguement.

It was just something I need off my chest. My gf and I been doing real good since my last post about our messed up situation then this came up and I'm just like omg man.. What next? You know what I'm saying?

The thing that I really feel badly about is this whore, and I'm sorry ladies to talk like this but its exactly what she is a whore, well this whore SPECIFICALLY told me and made it completly clear she no longer talked to the guy who used to be my friend.. What was done is done, I see him the VERY NEXT DAY with a huge smile on his face talking about how hapy he was she took him back after he had cheated.

Please don't tell me I'm wrong for calling her those names because I have this thing figured out. He cheated on her with a few girls, she dumped him.. Didn't talk to him for a while, then as soon as she hooked up with me she probably felt like the score was even with him.. He screwed someone, she screwed someone. Meanwhile I'm feeling guilty as hell cause this guy is walking around so happy that his girl took him back.. But does she care? No.. Cause she's selfish and only cared about her own happiness. She felt like if she hooked up with someone else it would make it easier on her to forget what he did.. Next thing you know she's gonna actually cheat on him when they are literally together, because in her mind hooking up with me doesn't make it even cause they were split up.. Then she's gonna wanna do it again cause he did it more then once.

I wish I could just tell the guy dude ur gf is a hoe, but imagine how that would feel to hear that.

**Insex** · December 27th, 2007, 12:10 PM

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Originally Posted by theatrain

We got in her room, she immediately pulled down my pants and started using her mouth.. One thing lead to another and all was said and done. The only thing I have to admit here as after performing oral she hoped on top of me without a condom, after about 10 seconds or so 15 seconds maybe i gained my wits back and said no no no, we need a condom. so we used one..

Unless you're making this up, you two used a condom. So you should be covered (unless the condom broke).

So if she really is pregnant, the baby is not yours. It's someone else's (probably that friend of yours that she got back together with). From the way you describe this girl, she seems like she sleeps around with different guys a little too often. Think back about how easy it was for you to sleep with her. You didn't even have to say a word! After what she did to you, I can only assume that she sleeps with a lot of other guys the same way she did with you. Plus, you were smart enough to stop, think, and put on a condom. She didn't even initiate using a condom, which means that she probably doesn't require a lot of her sex partners to use a condom either, unless they initiate the idea like you did.

So don't sweat it. The baby is not yours, it's someone else's that she had sex with after you (probably that guy she got back together with). Stay away from her and never talk to her again, she's probably loaded with multiple STDs by now.

**gunshowbabe** · December 27th, 2007, 12:12 PM

well, if it were me I would rather hear it sooner than later... it is a screwed up situation!

I have to agree she was probably trying to get him back... Hope it all works out for you though, good luck!

**theatrain** · December 27th, 2007, 12:18 PM

No, I'm not making it up. I really did use a condom lol I remember what kind and everything Trojan with Spermicidal Lubricate. White rapper with blue writing i think.

It went in for a few seconds without one like I said and I got really scared I was like whoa wtf, no we need a condom. Then after all was said and done she said something like why did you get so scared, shes like ever since my mom found out I have been sexually active she takes me in for regular pap smears and testing and nothing abnormal has ever shown up so don't worry about it to much.

She is a hoe like I said man. Like that is supposed to comfort me? it made me worry even more.

**PythonPower** · December 27th, 2007, 12:44 PM

umm....yea...like mentioned above...you need new friends. these are not your friends.

**theatrain** · December 27th, 2007, 12:49 PM

They're not my friends anyway.

You think I'll be friends with this girl? The last time I talked to her was the day it happened
and then yesterday when i was asking her wtf is going on.

As for the guy, I hadn't talked to him in close to 2 years or so. He used to be my friend in junior high.

I don't associate with either of the two. The only people mentioned in this thread that would be considered my friend is my g/f and the girl who told me about the situation.

**wildstang** · December 27th, 2007, 05:40 PM

just dont forget to use a condom ever again and dont cheat on your current g/f and your life will be ok.

**theatrain** · December 27th, 2007, 07:01 PM

Thank you, I'm in the clear. I knew right from wrong and I know right from wrong.
I just needed to vent, you know? It was a scary situation.

**tooncesthecat** · December 27th, 2007, 10:03 PM

Man, this site is off the hook lately! I feel like I'm watcing Dr. Phil!

My 2 cents...

1. The girl is definitely on the whoreish side. As stated, she went at it with you, without protection (when she initiated) without even knowing you. SHE DOES THIS WITH OTHER GUYS.

2. Her BF is a man-whore. If he really cheated on her with 5 other girls, he's in the same league as her.

3. They'll both cheat on each other again, and again, and again...they're perfect for each other!!!

4. You f'd up but I did similar, stupid things when I was your age. Your not a piece of sh*t. You're a normal, horny 19 year old guy. You succomb to a momentary lapse of reason.

5. If you do this in the future, just use a condom. One "monentary lapse of reason" can lead to a lifetime commitment should you create a life!

6. You can't change the past, but you can learn form it!

I hope you have a great New Year