Mixed Signals..........

[sooty316]

To keep this down to the minimum I have bullet pointed events/situations which will become apparent. The basic question is: Does this girl want my friend or not? He's doin my head in with it and I'm gonna give him this thread once there are enough sensible responses.

Situation.............
* He goes out in his hometown and has noticed this girl. Smiled at her a couple of times, but not got much back. He never approached her and basically didn't pursue.
* He's goin on holiday. At the airport he spots this girl from his town. he over hears her say...."thats him from ******", later on she is boarding the same plane. he doesn't say anything to her, but does glance at her and she glances at him.
* Bk home he's working....local supermarket. Friday tea time he sees her come in the shop. She's with a friend. He sculks around doing his job and she hovers within ear shot and says, "he was on holiday, hasn't he kept his tan well"
* Two weeks pass and he is with me out on a Sat night and on way to a bar he passes this group of girls and says hi to one of them......he'd had a few so confidence was high. he walks past, but she calls him back and basically strikes up a conversation. It centers around holiday and one comment made by her was "I saw you in a bar out there but didn't come over because you were with your girlfriend" They talk a little longer and then me and my mate make our excuses and go. Lo and behold 5 mins later she is in same bar and basically points him out to her mates and smiles at him etc. he doesn't do anything but does on leaving wave goodbye.
* Following week we are out again.....same bar and this girl is there. She sees him and comes over....they talk about everything work, dislikes, likes etc, her friends move on to another bar but he's just bought her a drink. She stays and she's basically talkin to us both. She gets a text and its her mates telling her to hurry up. She says her goodbyes and gives him a big cuddle and a kiss on cheak which he returns.
* Its a Saturday at work....about 3 weeks later. He's not been out because work is busy at Xmas time lead up. he told me she came up behind him and just touched his back to get his attention....not a tap but a touch. He said he turned around and her first words were...."I bet your surprised to see me" he said he replied "Pleasantly" They had a small conversation about plans at Xmas and left it at that.
* Xmas Eve......he's out with a friend from work, a female, a date. He see's this other girl and says hi, kisses cheek and gives her a hug. She moves on but is still in same bar. He carries on with his date and now and again glances at this other girl. She smiles at him and he does a half cocked smile back. He says he kept noticing her glancing over and she smiled at him again but this time she also looked his date up and down. Apart from this he didn't have any coversational contact but when he left he did wave goodbye and she waved back.
* New years Eve....he's out with me and we end up in a club. This girl is there. He's been ill all day and isn't in the best of moods but gets on with drinking and generally fun. I noticed that she looks over a few times and waves over to say hi. He doesn't see this but I tell him. She's with her mates male and female and having fun. Later on she walks past us and sqeezes his sides but walks off, she does turn round and stick her tongue out at him and he does the same to her. Unlike other times though she doesn't engage in conversation and this gets his back up....I did point out that he could make the chase but he's a stubborn arse. It gets to midnight ding dong and at about quarter past she comes over and says happy new year, they have a quick cuddle, peck on cheek and she says she's nippin out for a fag. He's says catch up with you later and she says I won't be long.
At this point I thought thank god for that, but this is where it goes a bit pete tong. She comes back in and is again chattting with her friends male and female. One guy is defo interested in her. My mate looks over a couple of times and each time she does smile back, even in conversation with this guy she looks up and smiles at my mate.
Fast forward to closing time....no contact was made and he was pissed off that she didn't come back to him. On leaving I'm gettin the number of this girl I've met and my mate is patiently waiting for me when his eye candy walks past with her mates. They stop within 5 yards of us and she kinda kisses this guy which gets my mate well stressed. I saw the kiss and it wasn't full of passion, more pissed up snog at end of night.

Thats basically it. Now I reckon she does like him, or she wouldn't have pursued any form of conversation with him etc over the last few weeks. At the end of the day they didn't know each other from adam. I also think he should have got in there when he had the chance and she probably thinks he's not totally interested. The big dump he made though was taking his date to where she also sees him. I personally think that got her bk up. I also think the New years eve situation was her stand against this. I also bet that within a week she'll be in his supermarket chatting away and ensuring that interest is still there.

But what do you guys and girls think. Please sensible answers......I'm gonna show him this and don't want suicide on my hands LOL.

[Insex]

That's some small town you guys live in. Your friend seems to bump into this lady everywhere he goes. I think she's definitely interested in your friend, but she probably thinks that he already has a girlfriend or is more interested in other women than her.

For example, recall that night when your friend had a lot of confidence and approached that group of girls that she happened to be with and said to him, "I saw you in a bar out there (out on holiday) but you didn't come over because you were with your girlfriend." I think statements like these are just a big fat excuse for girls who are really interested in approaching a guy or having the guy approach her, but are too afraid to because they see them with another girl. They justify it by making seem obvious that the other girl shielded you from her, and therefore she couldn't approach you. I've had this happen to me before, whenever I'm hanging out with a particular girl, the other one from a distance doesn't seem to show much interest in me. However, when I get a chance to talk to the other girl later on, she'll all of a sudden be really interested in me and say "Well, I would've talked to you before, but you were with that other girl," or something of that sort.

I don't know what your friend said to her after this. If he said that he did have a girlfriend, then it's obvious that she's still interested in him, because the following week she approached you and him at the bar. If he said that he did not have a girlfriend, then she's probably just waiting for him to ask her out. Some girls will go out and get what they want; most other girls however, will still make the guy ask her out even if she wants to go out with him right then and there. For example, one of my friends has a girlfriend that he met back in college. One time, I asked his girlfriend how they met. Initially, she approached him because she was really interested in him. But when it came down to exchanging phone numbers and going out on a date, she waited for him to initiate that. She told me that she really liked him when she first met him and would've liked to go out with him, but there was no way in Hell that she was going to ask for his number. He had to ask for her number first.

One other reason why it's obvious that she's really interested in your friend is because she approaches your friend and has conversations with him whenever he's hanging out with you. She assumes that your friend is not gay, so whenever he's hanging out with you or a group of guys, she feels that she has an opportunity to talk to him. But whenever your friend is hanging out with another girl, she doesn't approach him, but instead, glances at him from afar. Probably because she's jealous.

On New Year's Eve, the tables were turned. This time she was with a group of male friends and your friend was alone with you, available to talk to. At the end of the night, she is caught getting a little too close with another guy. It is possible that she could be purposely doing this for show, in front of your friend, in order to make him really jealous. That's probably why she did that within such close proximity to him. Or, she could be really interested in another guy because she thinks your friend is no longer interested in her.

I think the opportune time your friend could have made a move was when she was with that group of girls and he approached them. After she said she thought he was with his girlfriend out on holiday, he could've said no and proceeded to ask her for her number.

I hope all works out well with your friend and this girl. Is your friend even interested in this girl at all? If he is, I think the girl is still interested in him, but time's running out...

[john112364]

I agree with Insex. She seems like she's interested, but your friend needs to stop dragging his feet and ask for her number or just ask her out! But if he doesn't act soon she's going to move on and he'll be out of luck. I think New Years Eve was to see his reaction. Tell your friend to go for it. All she can do is say no, but it doesn't seem likely that'll happen.

[sleepyles]

Originally Posted by john112364

I agree with Insex. She seems like she's interested, but your friend needs to stop dragging his feet and ask for her number or just ask her out! But if he doesn't act soon she's going to move on and he'll be out of luck. I think New Years Eve was to see his reaction. Tell your friend to go for it. All she can do is say no, but it doesn't seem likely that'll happen.

I agree with what John112364 had to say. I think your buddy should make a move before it is too late. I sense the game of "cat and mouse". I think her reaction was more so to react to the last time she saw him out on a date with a fellow co-worker. He should make a move before she changes her mind.

[gunshowbabe]

I agree with the guys... he needs to make the move and let her know instead of assuming she knows he likes her. Girls don't read minds you know, and if a guy I was interested in was out with another girl I would totally back off...

[wildstang]

definitely strike up a conversation and set up a dinner date or some dancing or whatever floats his boat. better move quickly before another casanova moves in for the score.