Hmmm... ideas?

[Control]

Wow where do i begin...Imma just sum this up in bullet points. lol

1. 1. 1. .Girl and guy were just friends for good while
      2. -Relationship starts, Guy and girl fight, girl doesnt want to talk for 2 months
      3. -Girl apologizes to guy, start talking again alot, seems more like friend thing
      4. -Girl aks guy out of blue to prom (its his senior prom), guy says yes
      5. -Girl then backs out at last minute when she hears guy had. another date and was planning on blowing the other girl off. (Could also be money issue on dress for girl also since it was the night before..)
      6. -Guy plans on leaving to cali for college, girl is about to leave on 2 month trip
      7. -Guy gives girl goodbye letter as she leaves, assuming he wont see her again
      8. <br>-Guy ends up not going to cali due to family issues and needing to stay around home
      9. -Girl sends guy postcards while on vacation</
      10. -1 month in through vacation girl starts calling guy alot to talk
      11. -Girl eventually comes back, start hanging out here and there
      12. -Guy pushes relationship again-Girl gives bullshit line: ' I like you too much, relationships end way too quick blah blah' and leaves</br>
      13. -Guy doesnt believe this, goes and tracks her down, in process finds book, (a diary)
      14. -Guy's curiosity takes hold of him opens book, reads book, most of it is about him. Girl admits to loving guy, blah blah etc etc.
      15. -Girl finds guy, guy says start relationship, things happen, blah blah girl says ok.
      16. -Girl realizes guy read book.
      17. -Guy gets somewhat scared of whole love thing and isnt sure what to do or how he feels
      18. -Guy doesnt. talk to girl for week
      19. -Guy then tries to talk to girl alot more after realizing girl was probobly just.. whatever. This gets increasingly difficult as girl isnt pleased doesnt have cellphone and contact with her can be very hard. Also her line got cut(This has been a problem throughout)
      20. -Guy finally gets ahold of girl, asks for date, girl says yes
      21. -Girl backs out next day after talking to "friends" about the whole situation
      22. -Girl moves away, tells guy she doesnt want to talk for another 2 months till she can 'get her head strait'
      23. -Guy doesnt pursue, has no idea where girl moved.
      24. -3 months later, guy notices girls dads car as hes heading home from college
      25. -3 days later, guy decides to visit girl.-Girl hears guy is here, and.. hides in room.
      26. -Guy has pleasant convo with sister blah blah blah w/e. Guy tells girl to get sister to talk to him.

And here we are. Basically, shes been a VERY important part of my life during times when we were talking. When we arent talking, my time is filled with dating plenty of other women... however most of the relationships were never that sucessfull. (None lasting more then 2 weeks except for two of them which were atleast a month or two)I always found myself dwelling on her and no matter what i did i could NOT get here out of my head. Since she has met me, she hasnt been in any other relationships with any other guys to my knowlege. Save one that lasted for 2 days with an old friend of mine. When we very first met.Now that she knows im still around, the question of wether or not she plans on talking to me still remains i guess.. But i think she will.I guess the question is, how in gods name can I make something like this work. Not turn horribly bad.Or am I for lack of a better word... already fucked. Should i even be attempting to talk to this girl? Is this 'love'? Ive never asked for advice in my entire life on stuff like this, but i could really use some input.

[falconfootball]

You're in college, and from your words, have been dating other girls. Savor this time. If she's the one, it will work itself out.

Every guy has some kind of feelings or attachment with their first love. Years after I broke up with a girl I dated, we still talk. Now I'm 1000 miles away. But when I go home, we always find it easy to hook up. Is there potentially something there were I to move back? Sure, but I'm not gonna lose sleep over it.

It's not very hard for us observers to say "Leave her alone, and find someone new". But take the advice you are seeking.

Plus, if she thought it would work once you came home from school, she wouldn't have hid from you in her own house when you attempted to visit.

There is a huge ocean of women out there, and at this time in your life you are in prime fishing waters. Hookup, date, and become good friends with other girls while you can.

Good luck

[wildstang]

the girl sounds a bit on the immature side. look your first goal should be college getting an education so you can land a good job and live comfortabley. as far as she goes if you really like her let her know. shes not a mind reader. you may need to let her know how you feel and how you feel about your education if it matters wich i'd guess it does. as falcon said date around unless you two decide to date. lots of guys would see others while dating a woman but for me i have a morals issue and cant see anybody else while committed to a person. being a little on the old fashioned side actually. and that is a quality all women respect. regardless she sounds really messed up but as you wrote she may be in love with you and trying not to get hurt and keeping a little space because shes afraid to be hurt and used. if you really care for her theres no harm in telling her that and take it from there.

[tooncesthecat]

Agree with Falcon and Stang. One thing you said was "how can I make something like this work?" Well, the answer is, YOU CAN'T! A relationship depends on two people sharing some common goals. If she's not into a relationship with you RIGHT NOW there is nothing you can do to MAKE her want one. But, as already said, stay friends with her. If it's meant to be, it will eventually develop into a more serious relationship. If not, then it wouldn't have been a good long-term relationship anyway.

[sleepyles]

Well I agree with what the others have said. If it is meant to be, it will be. You are dating other girls, so just leave it at that. You are both young, and as people get older, they change in mentality, etc. You both seems like you are trying to find yourself, and that is what college is about.

Plus on another note, I can't believe you read this girl's diary. That is a "no no" in my opinion, that is an invasion of someone's privacy. No wonder her friends are telling her not to deal with you, there is a lack of trust and openness. Why didn't you tell her yourself and be a man that you read her diary? Instead she found out probably from other people right? Or maybe from your actions with dealing with her she realized it (change in behaviour). Just leave the relationship as is (friends), and move on.

[wildstang]

the balls in your court "control". you have the first move, just take it wisely and with thought.