What the heck! Is it me?!

**chuckg** · June 25th, 2008, 09:58 AM

I'm not really sure why I'm writing this. I guess I'm just looking to vent, maybe .... I don't know.

Here's the thing, I was sent a joke via e-mail about Home Depot. Some guy saying there's a scam where 2 young girls wash your windows and then ask for a ride. Then they steal your wallet. So I posted it up on a forum I belong to with old friends. She goes on there, too. She's friends with most of them, also.
Anyway, so I posted that yesterday morning and completely forgot about it. So she reads it there and calls me this morning to bust my chops about it. Claiming it was wrong to post something like that and it makes her look like a fat house frough (sp?). So I’m like, “WTF? Are you joking?”. Then she says, with a slight attitude, “Yes, I’m kidding”. Now here’s the thing…. What the hell’s so funny about making my entire body jump with anxiety?! I literally just got off of medication for anxiety, plus she used to be ridiculously jealous. She claims to have stopped all of that, and it usually seems to be that way. But every once in awhile she’ll do this, which I’ve asked her in the past to please stop. It’s not funny, at least not to me, and I fail to see how it could be to someone who’s been through what I’ve been through (7 years of medication that wound up messing with my mind).
So now I’m pissed off and my phone is off the hook (at work). I have voice mail so anyone trying to get ahold of me can leave a message.
Am I wrong here? My whole body shook thinking back to a time when she gave me Holy Hell for something really insignificant (which I more than made up for to keep her happy) and wondering if it would happen again. In fact, I even asked her the last time she did this, as a joke, to please not do it anymore. It’s just not funny to do that.
Sorry, I’m just really pissed off and need to let it out. Let’s see how she likes knowing I’m pissed off and not being able to contact me.

**pliny_2001** · June 25th, 2008, 10:29 AM

I'm sorry, I don't get the post -- did you leave out a sentence or two? Who's "she"?

I don't know what you've been though, but from the way your mental state seems to be jumping around in your post, it might be an overreaction on your part.

**chuckg** · June 25th, 2008, 10:37 AM

Yeah, sorry. I'm talking about my wife. And there's a lot I left out that I was trying to sum up. Guess that didn't work.

**varbo** · June 25th, 2008, 01:03 PM

Dude, wives seem to get in those moods sometimes. My wife used to do stuff like that on the odd occation. Now every once in a while she wants to punch me as hard as she can to see if it will hurt.

I sometimes think that they get in a weird mood and have to express it and since you are her soulmate, you are the only one they feel comfortable expressing this mood to. Plus she knows if it pisses you off, you'll forgive her. One of those things about being married.

**wil** · June 25th, 2008, 01:40 PM

I got one word for ya...

hormones

**chuckg** · June 25th, 2008, 01:48 PM

Ok, took it out on the weights at lunch. Quite a bit calmer now. The whole issue is she did something, again, that I specifically asked her not to do to me. She used to be quite the jealous person and after 20+ years all the upset really got to me. Not that she did this at every turn, but if I commented on a woman ( although I'm not a woman drooler by any means, especially when I'm with her. I have more class than that, This is moreso from her insecurities) she would get upset. And there were a few times she put me through the ringer. Don't get me wrong, if I were the type to not be trusted I could understand this. But I'm not that type, never have been. Just not in my nature to do that. Plus I love my wife! And I let her know this every day! But still her issues wold crop up. Then lately she'd been changing. We're older now and maybe after all the talks we've had over this she's come to realize she never has to worry with me.

But a couple of times she's hit me with the old crap and then tried to say it was just a joke. So I asked her to please not do that anymore. I don't find it funny and it really affects my insides. And seeing how I really suffered from anxiety, without the benefit of taking time off to relax and clear my head, I would have hoped that telling her twice how it affects me would have given her some insight as to HOW IT AFFECTS ME! Plus, with all the stress I'm under right now (mostly financial) I would think that doing that to me wouldn't be in good taste.

Believe me, I'm not trying to be a whiney bitch here. But it just bothers me that someone I feel I should be able to rely on wouldn't remember something I felt was important enough to talk to her about and explain. But right now, apparently that's not the case.

So, sorry for the long post but I figured why not give some more information on this.

**chuckg** · June 25th, 2008, 01:53 PM

Btw, here's the joke I posted:

Home Depot Scam ..... Guys, please beware!

I understand that this happens at Lowe's, too, so don't desert Home
Depot just yet.

A heads up for those men who may be regular Home Depot customers.

This one caught me by surprise. Over the last month I became a victim
of a clever scam while out shopping. Simply going out to get
supplies has turned out to be quite traumatic.

Don't be naive enough to think it couldn't happen to you or your
friends.

Here's how the scam works:
Two seriously good-looking 20-21 year-old girls come over to your car
as you are packing your shopping into the trunk. They both start
wiping your windshield with a rag and Windex, with their breasts
almost falling out of their skimpy T-shirts. It is impossible not to
look. When you thank them and offer them a tip, they say 'No' and
instead ask you for a ride to McDonalds. You agree and they get in
the backseat. On the way, they start undressing, then one of them
climbs over into the front seat and starts crawling all over you,
while the other one steals your wallet.

I had my wallet stolen April 4th, 9th, 10th, twice on the 15th, 17th,
20th, 24th and 29th. Also May 1st, 4th, twice on the 8th, 16th, 23rd,
26th, 30th, three times last Saturday and very likely again this
upcoming weekend. So tell your friends to be careful.

P.S. Wal-Mart has wallets on sale for $2.99 each.

I think the bottom line to all of this is, if you're stating to someone (especially to someone you've been with for 24 years) that you love them and they are the most important person in your life and then do something that you know will hurt them (especially when they've told you 2-3 times how it affects them) how can you truly claim they really are the most important person to you?

**gYmgIrL** · June 25th, 2008, 08:10 PM

I think she has been trying really hard to stop getting those jeleous bouts, and sometimes her insecurities get the better of her and so her initial reaction of "oh, so he wishes he could have young things crawling all over him because I'm not good enough" was the reason she called you the first time. Then she remembered that she's being silly, and of course you sending that email doesnt mean that, which is why she told you she was joking.

Being an insecure lady is TOUGH! It's a continous fight within yourself for what is logical and what is not. At that point it would have been almost impossible for her to think "wait, if i get jelous of this I will hurt my husband" because she was thinking "crap, I'm too crap for my husband he think im ugly etc etc etc"

Do you know what I mean?

Illogical, irrational thoughts. She was awesome just to keep them temporary to try and save your feelings!

Tell her how you think the joke is funny because men are so stupid, that all it takes are some slutty 20 yo's to steal their wallet. The joke is funny because it pokes fun at dumb men. If they were intelligent, they'd have an awesome beautiful and also practical wife with brains that they could have decent conversations with and spend the rest of their lives with.

like you do

.. or she could have just been mucking around to say "iiii read that post sonny jim!"

you're probably the only one who would know

**chuckg** · June 26th, 2008, 09:10 AM

Dammit, GG!!!! You had to go and be all LOGICAL!!!!

Seriously, your post REALLY put things into perspective and made me rethink my own sensitivity about this. Thank you. When Diane got home last night I apologized which completely blew her mind. The rest of the night was spent ... well, I'm sure you all can use your imagination.

Thanks, everyone, for listening to my gripe. It really means a lot to know I can go someplace to squawk once in awhile.

**gYmgIrL** · June 28th, 2008, 06:21 AM

yaaayyy!! I'm so glad!!!!

xxx

**wil** · June 28th, 2008, 06:26 AM

GG is hawt... GG is wise...

SUPREME · July 9th, 2008, 10:40 AM

Your wifey went nuclear about a joke? Wowzers...and you've been married how long?? Wowzers. Take your wife out to dinner or dancing or something. Then go to Home Depot...LMAO...that was a joke.

**lizzyb** · July 9th, 2008, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by SUPREME

Your wifey went nuclear about a joke? Wowzers...and you've been married how long?? Wowzers. Take your wife out to dinner or dancing or something. Then go to Home Depot...LMAO...that was a joke.

Hey!! Whasso funny?? My hubby and I do that all the time, lol!! I also drag him shoe shopping with me too, lol!! Equal time...lol!