when a woman waves at you. Being manly about it.

DaveBB · July 30th, 2008, 08:41 AM

Theres a cute girl at work that always waves to me. My first reaction is to wave back but this somehow doesnt seem like the manly thing to do so i crack a smile at her and do the head nod for recognition. Is this the right thing to do or should i wave back? It doesn't feel manly waving to a woman to me for some reason.

Anyone here good with body language willing to give an opinion?

**wil** · July 30th, 2008, 09:00 AM

Um... forgive my ignorance... what exactly is un-manly about waving???

Just don't wave like this...

**ckn** · July 30th, 2008, 09:25 AM

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Originally Posted by DaveBB

Theres a cute girl at work that always waves to me. My first reaction is to wave back but this somehow doesnt seem like the manly thing to do so i crack a smile at her and do the head nod for recognition. Is this the right thing to do or should i wave back? It doesn't feel manly waving to a woman to me for some reason.

Anyone here good with body language willing to give an opinion?

- Nice smile showing some of your top teeth (doesn't look fake or cold that way)
- Good eye contact
- Hand raised to head level and no wave

Watch a politician on a "meet & greet" thingy for the general idea, but you'll actually mean it

A smile & a nod is better for a male acquaintance and generally substitutes for 5 minutes of small talk from "Good morning" to "lovely/rubbish weather, isn't it?"

Now if only I could persuade my wife to do the same with friends she meets in town!

**gunshowbabe** · July 30th, 2008, 09:26 AM

I agree with Wil, you are looking too much into it-

**gYmgIrL** · July 30th, 2008, 09:32 AM

Do a salute!!!

hhah that would be awesome

but seriously though, do what makes you feel comfortable. Do you remember the high five episode of Seinfeld? well that has nearly no relevance to this. BUT if you feel uncomfortable waving, stick with the nod. If you 're just not waving because you want to appear manly, then she will notice your fakedness. and may stop waving

Moral of the story: dont worry about what other people think and just beeeee

yourself!

(thats the moral to all of my stories isnt it?)

**wil** · July 30th, 2008, 09:32 AM

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Originally Posted by ckn

A smile & a nod is better for a male acquaintance and generally substitutes for 5 minutes of small talk from "Good morning" to "lovely/rubbish weather, isn't it?"

Now if only I could persuade my wife to do the same with friends she meets in town!

Amen brother! A 20 minute walk around our neighborhood can easily turn into an hour of blabbing at each house we pass.

**wil** · July 30th, 2008, 09:34 AM

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Originally Posted by gYmgIrL

Do you remember the high five episode of Seinfeld?

High five... on the flip side.

Don't leave me hangin'

**wildstang** · July 30th, 2008, 10:17 AM

its pretty obvious to me shes wanting just a little more then a wave in return. time to step up to the next level and have some casual conversation. never know she may be beautiful looking and when actually have gotten to know her its possible personalitys may clash or something of this nature. you will never know unless you take it to the next level wich in my opinion shes wanting.

**johnny_on_the_spot** · July 30th, 2008, 10:18 AM

next time she does if your walking, point at her for a small period of time then rotate it into a peace symbol. but a corny 60's peace symbol, a cool, hip one. palm should be facing you (so the back of your hand is facing her) and it should be rotated approx 90 degrees (so if your right handed the two fingers should be pointing left)

that would be ballin and you'd be a pimp!

or you could not worry about silly little details, she is waving at you (which means she isnt completely repulsed by you), you literally could fall on your face and it wouldnt matter

**pliny_2001** · July 30th, 2008, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by gYmgIrL

Do you remember the high five episode of Seinfeld? well that has nearly no relevance to this

Dear god, I'm in love with GG.

But for your question, don't worry about being manly -- if your first reaction is to wave back, then wave back. Pretty much unless your first reaction is to do some type of end-zone dance, I'd just tell you to go with your first reaction (but who knows, maybe she'd love an end-zone dance - then you'd be meant to be. I know that my reaction after an "I love you" when I'm walking out the door is to go all Han Solo and say "I know." But history has shown that to generally be the wrong reply).

**A1food4U** · July 30th, 2008, 11:05 AM

If your worried about being seen as wishy washy and emotional, go old school Star Trek and give her the vulcan finger split "live long and prosper". If she still waves then you know there's something wrong with her.........he he just kidding

**JarheadRI** · July 30th, 2008, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by A1food4U

If your worried about being seen as wishy washy and emotional, go old school Star Trek and give her the vulcan finger split "live long and prosper". If she still waves then you know there's something wrong with her.........he he just kidding

Oh man this is GOLD! Gold JERRY I tell ya!

Well if I were this guy I would pucker my lips blow a kiss to her and give her the finger. Girls love that bad boy crap!

I am kidding!

Just wave back to her for crying out loud. Damn if I only knew then what I know now. If a chick even looks at me now I am all over that. Of course then my wife usually grabs me by the collar and or testicles and be littles me in front of everyone.

**SAINT_X** · July 30th, 2008, 11:37 AM

...throw out a hook'em horns at her! If, on the off chance she's a Longhorn...you are WAY IN!!!!

That being said...there's probably a less than .0001 chance of that.

But if you are in say..... Northwestern Australia and did that, and just by some crazy fluke she was - that would be awesome!!!!

OK...nevermind...I would go with gymgirl on this one. I'm going back outside now to enjoy the nice hundred and whatever degree weather ( maybe THATs what's wrong with me...heat stroke!)

**vanessa40** · July 30th, 2008, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by wildstang

its pretty obvious to me shes wanting just a little more then a wave in return. time to step up to the next level and have some casual conversation. never know she may be beautiful looking and when actually have gotten to know her its possible personalitys may clash or something of this nature. you will never know unless you take it to the next level wich in my opinion shes wanting.

I agree..
If she is waving at you everyday she must want to talk to you..

**lizzyb** · July 30th, 2008, 06:38 PM

Hell....if I waved at a guy and all he did was give me 'the nod', I'd be certainly wondering if he wasn't available.....you know, a polite nod is what married people give in situations like that, or what the boss gives you in the parking lot. I say go and say hi, and if you are intersted, bring her a chai latte!!

**griffo2** · July 30th, 2008, 08:41 PM

If she is hot blow her a kiss.Go for it ya big gurl....never let a chance go by son....lol.

Mikito1956 · July 31st, 2008, 12:17 AM

Are you crazy, man?! What's so bad about waving back to her? You had better hurry up and do it, too, because she'll think you are crazy and move on to look for someone else. Don't tarry - wave at her. In fact, don't stop there. Wave, smile and say something - Good morning; Nice day; Nice weather........

Anything!

**ItalianStallion** · July 31st, 2008, 01:00 AM

ah yes the infamous what do i do when a gurl waves at me dilema...cool thing to do was to reciprocate the gesture with a different tone...say if shes a rocker chick maybe u throw up the pinky n forefinger salute...if shes more of a surfer/skater tree hugger gurl u throw up the cowabunga pinky/thumb salute...or if shes a comedic type of gurl give her the old finger n thumb shaped as a gun saulte...bang bang sorta gesture...if shes sumwat gangster theirs the ever so thug lyfe west side salute or east side depending on ur location/representation of color also( please do not make the wrong motion on this one bcause u might get shot not laughed at)...u also have the point n thumb up motion asking witout asking if shes ok or not...lastly u can just wave back...remember not to twirl ur fingers when u wave..just put ur han up n when she looks motion a lil bit...last but not least for the love of god...whatever u do.. just dont

**gYmgIrL** · August 15th, 2008, 04:06 AM

If shes an Aussie bogan chick, then poke your bare arse out the side of your holden ute while yelling "are you moist?!?!?!"

yes... Australia defines world class

P.S. It helps if you throw a Fosters bottle in their vicinity after you have driven passed

Well... that's my idea of a perfect first date anyway!

**wil** · August 15th, 2008, 06:01 AM

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Originally Posted by gYmgIrL

If shes an Aussie bogan chick, then poke your bare arse out the side of your holden ute while yelling "are you moist?!?!?!"

yes... Australia defines world class

P.S. It helps if you throw a Fosters bottle in their vicinity after you have driven passed

Well... that's my idea of a perfect first date anyway!

I did a little searching for a translation of what GG considers a perfect date:

Apparently a "bogan" is like the Australian version of a redneck. Hey GG... I have been accused of being a bogan.

And here's my ride:

http://image.minitruckinweb.com/f/Lo...ere-she-is.jpg

So...

"Are you moist?!?!?!"

http://www.namedevelopment.com/blog/...ters-lager.gif

I thought maybe a 6-pack of Foster's would make it extra-special-perfect for ya Geeg