Problem with my ex-girlfriend and I

[aznboix]

Well, my girlfriend and I broke up two weeks ago and for the past week we have been hanging out non-stop and I feel wierd about it. Than yesterday we went to the beach and decided to talk about things. We both decided that we should give each other space for awhile and that's what we do. She says she wants to be with me but her head is telling her other wise. Is it because of the way we've been hanging out after we broke up? Or is she confused of why I broke up with her? I really want to get back with her but I do want to give her time and space . What should I do? We have been dating for 2 years.

[naptownkid]

This is a real simple answer. If you and her both feel you want to get back together, go ahead. But ask yourself what made you to split in the first place. If you think you guys are going to have another rough time together, then forget about her. No woman is that amazing for you to be doing this to yourself.

[aznboix]

Well for the past 6 months I have been not giving her much attention as I should have. Because my friends got me addicted to world of warcraft lol. When I would talk to her on the phone I would be playing and talking so I didn't pay much attention and sometimes I would be really quiet. Sometimes I would ditch her and be playing instead. But after we broke up. I broke up with her because she went to go hang out with her friends over me. Yea I know it was a dumb reason to end a 2 year relationship but I over reacted and I just spoke . After reliezing that I would rather have her than WoW. I completely stopped playing and haven't touched it since.

[championofnight]

Originally Posted by aznboix

Well for the past 6 months I have been not giving her much attention as I should have. Because my friends got me addicted to world of warcraft lol. When I would talk to her on the phone I would be playing and talking so I didn't pay much attention and sometimes I would be really quiet. Sometimes I would ditch her and be playing instead. But after we broke up. I broke up with her because she went to go hang out with her friends over me. Yea I know it was a dumb reason to end a 2 year relationship but I over reacted and I just spoke . After reliezing that I would rather have her than WoW. I completely stopped playing and haven't touched it since.

Well dude i hear ya on the game...it is fun indeed. I quit my account last month...somehow i grew immune to its addictive power..lol.

But dude if you both want to get together than go for it!

you know, i would apologize about the game and make sure she knows how much she's worth to you....

but go for it man, and good luck.

[joey9]

These threads always crack me up. Just because I can always relate to them so well. They're hilarious when they happen to someone else but difficult when they happen to us.

Anyway... maybe this game was addictive, but maybe there was something difficult happening between you and your woman that made the game seem extra attractive to you during the past six months. If you get back together and take away the game as a distraction... presto! you might be back having to deal with whatever that issue was all over again. Maybe you might get a bit more clear about that before you make your move.

Women tend to appreciate clarity in a man. If you're clear, she'll be more likely to follow your lead.

[aznboix]

haha...i see ever since we broke up I have had no intentions in going back. I just want to get her back but it's only been two days that we haven't talked to each other and that seemed like a year . I don't know what to do besides give her space at this point.

[mooshue]

You should have hung on to that one bro,
Most star wars, star trek, warcraft nerds should cling on to dear life to a woman who will willingly let you sleep with her

Seriously though, you sound young and inexperienced. Sounds like a lot of things i did in my younger manwhore days. Id dump a girl thinking i didn't want her anymore because she would be up my ass constantly. Then when i couldn't have her anymore, i wanted her. Either man up, admit to her you were wrong or stop whining about it, dump the nerd games and get back on the horse
You'll learn as you get older that the opposite sex just isn't worth wasting that much time on especially if you already know you can't make it work. If things are so hard, it clearly isn't working.

[varbo]

Dude, you dumped a girl for WarCraft?

HMMMMM.

Warcraft:


or

Woman:

[Weeble29]

There is alot of advice that can be given so I'll try not to ramble too much, but I am having trouble with this thread because it should be a no-brainer what needs to be done here. Put the game aside and start spending time with this girl, but by spending time with her I mean listen when she talks, suck it up and do some of the things she likes to do, and make her feel that she is more important than a video game for gods sake. If and when you do this and your still eager to keep the relationship then you keep it, if not than you know its time to move on. There will be plenty of temptations you will be faced with while your in a relationship and if something so insignificant like a video game pulls you away from her then I think your doing her a favor with the break-up. It does sound like you are young and inexperienced so I think you should consider the possibility that your not ready for a serious relationship at this point in your life and that is ok, but if you feel that you are and this girl is important to you then make the commitment to uphold your end of the deal here. Good luck with whatever happens.

[wildstang]

Originally Posted by aznboix

haha...i see ever since we broke up I have had no intentions in going back. I just want to get her back but it's only been two days that we haven't talked to each other and that seemed like a year . I don't know what to do besides give her space at this point.

excuse me but did you actually re-read what you wrote b-4 posting it? 1st sentence your stating not having any intention of going back then, 2nd sentence i just want 2 get her back.......your sounding pretty mixed up emotionally obviously or possible bi-polar even.

[aznboix]

Originally Posted by wildstang

excuse me but did you actually re-read what you wrote b-4 posting it? 1st sentence your stating not having any intention of going back then, 2nd sentence i just want 2 get her back.......your sounding pretty mixed up emotionally obviously or possible bi-polar even.

No intentions on going back to the game. As for spending time with her, I did all last week. She is just confused because of how I changed so fast. Sunday we decided to give each other space to see how things go.

[naptownkid]

U dumped her for a video game? Man, you are a total geek!! If she was total babe, then that makes you choice even more questionable.

[mooshue]

Originally Posted by naptownkid

U dumped her for a video game? Man, you are a total geek!! If she was total babe, then that makes you choice even more questionable.

i know we have all been messing with this dude for being a gamer, but what makes his hobby's any more demeaning than the one's we all have? No need to bash the poor dude. I know when i was younger, i was addicted to nes games, then when playstation came out it was all over. Some people here are addicted to the gym, some video games, some political bullshit, some biking, some running, some photography etc....lets try and keep on topic.

[cujo-1]

just move on if an honest explanation fails.

[aznboix]

She wanted space and I gave her space. She texted me yesterday and we started to talk from time to time. Just hope everything goes well