does working out changes womens sexuality?

gilzara · November 17th, 2008, 10:19 AM

Hello,

I would like to know opinions and experiences about girls who works out.
Do you think it changes their sexuality into a more "dominant" way?

sexy69 · November 17th, 2008, 12:19 PM

I believe it does and here is why.

I was dating a woman that had very low self esteem. She did not think she was attractive she thought she was fat. I spent more then half of the time trying to build her self esteem then anything else. She would not change infront of me or if we were having sex it would be in the dark.

So for one christmas I bought her a one year membership to the gym hoping this would help her and us as a relationship. Well at first it made our relationship a lot better, she self confidence and staring going out with her friends more, and she would tell me that guys were paying more attention to her... just to make a long storey short she ended up thinking that she was to good for me, and we broke up.

**tooncesthecat** · November 17th, 2008, 12:54 PM

Damn, guess it worked too good

**mooshue** · November 17th, 2008, 01:06 PM

i don't think that holds true for just women. If a person looks great and feels great, they will project that vibe of confidence to everyone around them. Unless the opposite sex feels that same way about themselves, the person will appear dominant and need to approach those less confidant people to get any sort of relation started.

I explained it this way to my girlfriends trainer, an IFBB pro female figure competitor just keeps dating asshole egomaniac men doesn't understand why she cant just get a normal guy. I tell her because normal guys will never approach her because she is too intimmidating.
She took offense to that at first because she though i meant manly, i explained that she is in incredible shape, beautiful, and a figure model. She in not attainable by a normal guy and the normal guy just assumes this and maybe gives a few looks and moves on.
The guy who is also in incredible shape, knows it, possibly a model or whatever will hit on her and try to make moves, but may be the assholes she is accustomed to getting with.
The second she started making the moves on the normal guys, she nabbed a great guy,they now live together.

She is similar to myself. She came from an having an eating disorder to now a pro figure model. Eats 6 times a day and healthy. Still sees the fat little girl in the mirror. Confidence isn't really there too often.

I always see my stomach no matter how thin, how much my bodyfat % goes down and lean mass goes up, pictures, camera, mirror, i see my fat belly like i have my whole life. If i wear fitted clothes where they are tight up top and loose around the belly, my confidence goes up. The second i see in my mind what looks like a belly, im the fat little kid again regardless of what everyone else sees.

hardgainer · November 17th, 2008, 01:50 PM

I was into working out way before my wife ever even thought of entering a gym. Ten years went by before she got into the lifestyle. Now, she goes everyday, competes (open figure) twice a year, and looks freak'n amazing (strong too). I barely go, I don't have the time, I still look good but no longer have any edge on her in terms of appearance. She busts on me, jokingly, on a regular basis but knows how much I got going on in order to keep our finances straight. I've definitely seen a change in her personality and I'm super proud of her and how she's started taking a more controlling stance with everything with her career and how she's able to handle people. She came from a very bad childhood, was told she'd be nothing, and now she's kicking azz. Her taking on the "hobby" of competing has really helped her tremendously. If she didn't have such a strong will to be a terrific person she definitely has every bit of ammo to become a real ball buster/heart breaker. One has to put their looks and confidence into perspective and have control over it or they'll either gain or lose friends/relationships. Hope this helps. :^)

**A1food4U** · November 17th, 2008, 01:56 PM

All I have to add is this. My wife doesn't work out, looks ok and is still the love of my life. I have noticed that when she is happy with her body image, she is more apt to share it with me, (wink wink) and is more aggresive in her participation. When she is going through stress at work and isn't eating right and adds the subsequent pounds she is less likely to get naked.

So by inference I feel safe to say, if she ever trained hard in competition style, I would expect to be walking funny.... Just sayin....

**wildstang** · November 18th, 2008, 09:50 AM

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Originally Posted by sexy69

I believe it does and here is why.

I was dating a woman that had very low self esteem. She did not think she was attractive she thought she was fat. I spent more then half of the time trying to build her self esteem then anything else. She would not change infront of me or if we were having sex it would be in the dark.

So for one christmas I bought her a one year membership to the gym hoping this would help her and us as a relationship. Well at first it made our relationship a lot better, she self confidence and staring going out with her friends more, and she would tell me that guys were paying more attention to her... just to make a long storey short she ended up thinking that she was to good for me, and we broke up.

as with any improvement in ones body it will add confidence but your ex girlfriend mentioned sounds pretty damn shallow and egotistical!

**lizzyb** · November 18th, 2008, 10:09 AM

And now for an actual woman's POV, lol!!

Oh yes it DOES change a woman in the boudoir both physiologically and psycho-emotionally.
With improved cardio-VASCULAR conditioning....blood flowing FREELY to all the right places, it increases stimulation, also muscular conditioning helps strengthen/tighten the pelvic floor (all good so far!). Now us gals are visual too, so when we see ourselves looking as hotties, well we tend to 'act' like hotties....less inhibited, b/c we fit the 'standard' (not right, but that's been the conditoning through the media). Women are always comparing themselves to others....it's this crazy competitive thing we do....our nature, if you will.....some are more immune to it than others (myself).

As for sexy69's personal situation.....that has nothing to do with this topic really. She could've gained an ego-boos by changing her hair color and the clothes she wore and would get the same effect. For him, she was just working out her crap on him....could've been anything. But I do disagree with shallow......

**wildstang** · November 18th, 2008, 05:14 PM

sorry but any woman or man 4 that matter who dumps there significant other after getting fit at his or her help and thinks she or hes too good 4 the person now, is shallow as hell!

**gYmgIrL** · November 18th, 2008, 11:28 PM

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Originally Posted by gilzara

Hello,

I would like to know opinions and experiences about girls who works out.
Do you think it changes their sexuality into a more "dominant" way?

No I dont think so. Unless you're really driven by your own appearance, which with women is really unlikely. If they feel ugly they feel ugly, some of these crazilly awesome figure ladies think they look like 'kegs' and dont seem very 'dominant'.

I think short answer is, if they're insecure then they will be submissive, regardless of what they outwardly look like.

hardgainer · November 19th, 2008, 09:57 AM

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Originally Posted by gYmgIrL

I think short answer is, if they're insecure then they will be submissive, regardless of what they outwardly look like.

Not to get off topic, sorry if I sound like I am, but I'd like to blame society as a whole for this one. We're blasted at every angle with "good looks" by the media day in and day out. Ladies are under heavy fire daily to look right and look how everyone expects them to be thus if they don't simply take the attitude of "who gives a sh*@" then yes they're probably more inclined to give in/sway over to the submissive side of behavior; which really isn't a good thing.

**championofnight** · January 6th, 2009, 02:57 PM

This is interesting. Ive noticed most of the girls that Ive been around take three distinct sides. They either say nothing at all (stand-offish), or openly insecure( start saying how they look like shit the moment i make any sort of eye contact, or other connection) , or defensive(talk really loud and start getting emotional).

And if they are closer to me the insecure ones start thinking that i'm not laying all my cards on he table. They start inventing way i have been dishonest.

Its true that i have not had many good experiences.
And honestly for me the struggle is not shutting down. Its frustrating, as somebody else already said, working your absolute best to build a girl up then have her think im actually poised against her. I have to suppress the newly developed opinion that the girl is just plain retarded while also working to build her up still. And then all of a sudden i tell her my true opinion and cut off the relationship...Laughing maniacally as i do so.

**lizzyb** · January 6th, 2009, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by championofnight

This is interesting. Ive noticed most of the girls that Ive been around take three distinct sides. They either say nothing at all (stand-offish), or openly insecure( start saying how they look like shit the moment i make any sort of eye contact, or other connection) , or defensive(talk really loud and start getting emotional).

And if they are closer to me the insecure ones start thinking that i'm not laying all my cards on he table. They start inventing way i have been dishonest.

Its true that i have not had many good experiences.
And honestly for me the struggle is not shutting down. Its frustrating, as somebody else already said, working your absolute best to build a girl up then have her think im actually poised against her. I have to suppress the newly developed opinion that the girl is just plain retarded while also working to build her up still. And then all of a sudden i tell her my true opinion and cut off the relationship...Laughing maniacally as i do so.

Actually.....I'd go out on a limb and say all 3 sides you just described are the same side actually......that side being insecure, each 'side' as you put it, are merely displaying theirs differently than the other....but it is insecure behaviours, period.
Why do you feel you'f "got to build a girl up"??? A girl should already be feeling 'up' on her own, and if she aint.....trust me YOU can't fix that!! She's gotta figure that shit out on her own for her own self........don't bother with gals like that, no relationship is supposed to be that kind of 'work'.

**championofnight** · January 6th, 2009, 04:01 PM

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Originally Posted by lizzyb

Actually.....I'd go out on a limb and say all 3 sides you just described are the same side actually......that side being insecure, each 'side' as you put it, are merely displaying theirs differently than the other....but it is insecure behaviours, period.
Why do you feel you'f "got to build a girl up"??? A girl should already be feeling 'up' on her own, and if she aint.....trust me YOU can't fix that!! She's gotta figure that shit out on her own for her own self........don't bother with gals like that, no relationship is supposed to be that kind of 'work'.

And your right. I couldn't build her up. There was nothing i could do. its what i realized before i pulled the plug.

I had pressed on with the beleif that she would finally be comfortable enough with me to be herself. But no, she saw teeth and thought they were barred, when actually i was smiling at her.
It really is unfortunate. I hope i finally have a rewarding friendship with a girl. And yes, freindship. Lol, but i'm sorry, back to the other guys issues. Not my thread.