how long should i wait?

**theatrain** · January 25th, 2009, 08:56 PM

I was at the mall yest, one of the stores I in I saw a cute girl. . I've seen her before in there so she came over and said hey, I remember you. Can I help you with anything. .

Make a long story short, we talked for about 45minutes, she showed all the right signs and at the end when she was printing my receipt I asked would it be alright if I got her phone number and gave her a call sometime. She said of course in a way that wasn't like. . "Here's my number. .but ill never answer" she said it as if she was happy I asked. .

I waited till today to call her, no answer so I left her a txt message after I said hey this is atrain from yesterday, just wanted to see how ur day was going and let you know this is my number so you have it.

No. . I didn't really say atrain lol, but I still haven't heard from her. I'm pretty sure she was busy maybe she doesn't even have texting and doesn't feel comfortable answering unknown numbers?

So my question really is this, how long do you think I should wait before giving it a 2nd shot? Ladies especially id appreciate your advice.

I might just stop by that store later this week and strike up another conversation and ask her what happened, under some circumstances that may sound creepy haha, but 3 or 4 times she mentioned that I should stop by later this week and visit her at work

In fact, they didn't have something I was looking for and she specifically said, in a flirty way. . "We will get more in wednesday, so looks like you got another excuse to come see me

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**tooncesthecat** · January 25th, 2009, 09:08 PM

I'd stop in the store and ask her out. Then you'll have your answer one way or another.

**theatrain** · January 25th, 2009, 09:13 PM

i wont care if she said no lol i just dont want to seem to anxious. some girls play hard to get, who knows maybe since i waited till today to call her shes gonna wait a day to answer.

**pliny_2001** · January 25th, 2009, 09:38 PM

Don't call again. Stopping by later in the week (Thurs/Fri, not Wednesday) is fine, but I'd say next Monday.

But calling again's a terrible move. She got your message, so there's no need to call or text again - the ball's in her court for the phone. Ignore the phone. Do not re-use the phone.

Good luck.

**theatrain** · January 25th, 2009, 09:46 PM

Thanks guys I was just getting too anxious

I just got a text message right now that says "hey, sorry i took soo long to answer i was at work. hopefully you didn't start shopping @" then she named the main competition of the store she works at lol

**lizzyb** · January 25th, 2009, 09:55 PM

YaY!! All's well that end's well, then.
Otherwise I would agree w/ everyone above, especially pliny's advice......personally, I like that approach the best.
~Best wishes!

**ItalianStallion** · January 26th, 2009, 04:16 AM

sounds like its goin so far so good...i would go in to c her in a few days n than ask her out...have sum sort of plan( a movie, beach plans, dinner arrangements) than go to her store n talk it up wit her n lastly before u go give her plan details n she'll give u an answer...its bad when u start makin up ur own stories...like shes not replyin because she doesnt like me, or shes busy...just let it go...ALSo sum people put up walls to let people who dont matter out while the people who do have to reach up n over to get across to the other side...its not hot n cold or wet n dry...feel it out...sumtimes u have to go over the top to show them ur interested n not just joe schmo while doin that could scare her away...do wat ur gut tells u..good luck friend

**wildstang** · January 26th, 2009, 02:00 PM

always better in person 4 me anyways. that way i can read her body language, smile and flirt and u know what! all boils down to confidence and thats what gets you the ladies! not this pussy texting crap hiding behind a phone! thats 4 losers! in person will get you a date much faster then a stinkin phone call or text.
and i know you have it in you atrain from our conversations weve held in PM

**torofuerte** · January 26th, 2009, 06:39 PM

Dude!!!!

For the love of Baphomet and all the horned, goat-like evil creatures in its domain, do not send text messages to a woman. E. V. E. R.

Don't call again... go to the mall in a week or so and ask her out. If you don't get anything short of a "yes", then assume it's a no or that she doesn't know what she wants/wants to play games. In the later case, GTFO and away. There are like a kazillion women out there, don't spent too much time on one that doesn't give you a plain yes to you.

**theatrain** · January 26th, 2009, 07:25 PM

oh ya, no doubt in person is the best. i was followjng up on our in person meeting. . by giving her a call and asking her how her day was and letting her know hey this is my number

im not a fan of hiding behind a phone or myspace. . my friend came here from california and he gave me a reality check about girls and dating. . now my friend is pale, with bright red hair and he gave me the confidence boost i needed to approach women. . he simply told me "i know im ugly, but i can hold a conversation and im not afraid to approach a girl, even the best looking guy isnt gonna get the girl if he doesnt have the balls to approach her and u cant be afraid of denial. . if she turns u down u move onto the next girl"

**ItalianStallion** · January 26th, 2009, 08:30 PM

keep us posted son!

**lizzyb** · January 26th, 2009, 09:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by theatrain

oh ya, no doubt in person is the best. i was followjng up on our in person meeting. . by giving her a call and asking her how her day was and letting her know hey this is my number

im not a fan of hiding behind a phone or myspace. . my friend came here from california and he gave me a reality check about girls and dating. . now my friend is pale, with bright red hair and he gave me the confidence boost i needed to approach women. . he simply told me "i know im ugly, but i can hold a conversation and im not afraid to approach a girl, even the best looking guy isnt gonna get the girl if he doesnt have the balls to approach her and u cant be afraid of denial. . if she turns u down u move onto the next girl"

It's so true though.......most women, myself included appreciate a guy with brains, who can hold a conversation......what's the excitement over a handsome package if the box is empty? Just sayin'

I used to have a tennant renting out my basement many moons ago....he was a good looking guy, but whenever he opened his mouth, nothing but shit would come out....poor fella was dumber than dirt (if you knew the guy, you'd agree with me...Fabio type, lol!) A co-worker saw him one day and wanted an itroduction....I agreed to have her over for dinner and a movie at my place and invited him....I thought 'let her figure it out....who knows?'.....well, the next day at work she was like "lizzyb.....why the hell didin't you tell me? I was sooo wrong about him", lol!! I laughed and said...hey there's someone for everyone....guess your or he's not it, lol!!

So go with your head first, then your heart and you'll be fine.....I think you'll be just fine

**theatrain** · January 26th, 2009, 10:26 PM

I'm glad my buddy came from California, he gave me the confidence I needed. I don't know why I was such a little chump about talking to girls before. . but hey, since he left I've gotten 3 phone numbers and I've been denied once, but hey thats part of the game.

I'm just trying to enjoy my young years and not worry about finding "The one" I'm gonna date around, all different types of girls, hopefully by the time I'm older I have dated one of each kind. . lol

no need to take life so seriously.

**gYmgIrL** · January 26th, 2009, 11:34 PM

hows it going now?! how cute and exciting!!

No way, texts are fine!! Id be way too nervous to answer the phone even if I wanted to. Id let it ring out and then text back and say "oops I missed your call sorry!" :P

**theatrain** · January 26th, 2009, 11:41 PM

She brought me hot chocolate to work today, but really its nothing serious, just a girl. Probably won't turn into anything more than friends

**ItalianStallion** · January 27th, 2009, 03:05 AM

she brought u hot choc? that means she was thinkin bout u outside of u 2 talkin to each other..than went out of her way to bring it to u...friends dont do that..people who r tryin to look good do that..tryin to look good so u like her back...so far soo good friend