2nd date idea

**johnny_on_the_spot** · February 23rd, 2009, 10:48 PM

Hey, a thread not about how to get some oblivious girl to notice you... what a great idea!

ok, going on a 2nd date with a lady. im 27, she's 30... looking for suggestions, moneys not really an option, but we're not boarding a private plane or anything ridiculous like that... right now im going with dinner then to a bar with pool/darts. but im open to any other ideas some people might have...

**ItalianStallion** · February 24th, 2009, 02:54 AM

ok...1st date is outta the way...u should be comfortable wit gurl n kno enough bout her that u dont have to rly "sit down n talk"...this date should be fun...shes older so im not sure wat kinda stuff shes into but id reccomend this: go on to ticketmaster.com n check out sports/theatre/concerts in ur area within next couple of days...this would be a fun thing to do, dinner n a show? or check ur local newspaper, not the paper paper but like a college paper kinda thing, they will tell u the best bars, hot shows in area, cool clubs/hangouts...if u wanna go towards a kiddy approach go to like a theme park...mini golf, go karts, batting cages...or go to a museum, an art gallery perhaps...

**johnny_on_the_spot** · February 24th, 2009, 09:15 AM

i live in virginia. it was 22 degrees out this morning, which will be about the same at night. the only outdoor activity that i can think of that would actually be open is ice skating

**wil** · February 24th, 2009, 09:50 AM

Never being a successful dater as a single guy, I may not be the best adviser. But maybe some of the lovely EF ladies can give some ideas for what they like for a 2nd date.

**SAINT_X** · February 24th, 2009, 11:06 AM

Actually your idea of nice dinner, then relax with drinks/pool/darts sounds really good for a second date.

**mooshue** · February 24th, 2009, 11:41 AM

my first dates always end up going on for years so i dunno for 2nd

Actually i thought the bar scene was bad until i read where you lived, then i realized being from the midwest myself, that's really all there is to do. Is she classy at all? Would a nice place with some outside lounge, heated of course, and a glass of wine together for a while instead of a bar? Not trying to insult, just get a feel of the situation. Some girls would find that stupid and boring.

**tooncesthecat** · February 24th, 2009, 11:49 AM

Where's CON when you need him? LMAO!

**tidalwave** · February 24th, 2009, 12:03 PM

These may not appeal to all, but I found these to be fun:

- Every Monday night (I think) there are free walk-in salsa lessons at the Clarendon Grill: The Clarendon Grill

- Up near Dulles Town Center, there's an indoor karting track. index

Pairing that with dinner could be unique.

**lizzyb** · February 24th, 2009, 12:36 PM

Some of the best dates I've been on were the ones that started with dinner, and went from there....nothing planned, just whatever we felt like after dinner. Some of the worst dates have been overly planned and overly thought out.
What are HER tastes? Maybe ask her what SHE'D like to do for a 2nd date......shows consideration, thoughtfulness.....goes a long way in mybooks, but that's just me.

**wil** · February 24th, 2009, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by mooshue

Is she classy at all?

"The only way to bag a classy lady, is to give her two tickets to the gun show and see if she likes the goods."

sorry, but I just couldn't resist

**johnny_on_the_spot** · February 24th, 2009, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by mooshue

my first dates always end up going on for years so i dunno for 2nd

Actually i thought the bar scene was bad until i read where you lived, then i realized being from the midwest myself, that's really all there is to do. Is she classy at all? Would a nice place with some outside lounge, heated of course, and a glass of wine together for a while instead of a bar? Not trying to insult, just get a feel of the situation. Some girls would find that stupid and boring.

no worries. she had a glass of wine at dinner on date number one, but she doesnt seem like she would be out of place at a bar. i really think she wouldnt mind either

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Originally Posted by tooncesthecat

Where's CON when you need him? LMAO!

thats just what i need, advice from someone who cant get to date #1, though all the girls orgasm as he walks by...

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Originally Posted by tidalwave

These may not appeal to all, but I found these to be fun:

- Every Monday night (I think) there are free walk-in salsa lessons at the Clarendon Grill: The Clarendon Grill

- Up near Dulles Town Center, there's an indoor karting track. index

Pairing that with dinner could be unique.

good ideas, i'm gonna have to come back to you if there is a date #3 since you are from the area also

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Originally Posted by lizzyb

Some of the best dates I've been on were the ones that started with dinner, and went from there....nothing planned, just whatever we felt like after dinner. Some of the worst dates have been overly planned and overly thought out.
What are HER tastes? Maybe ask her what SHE'D like to do for a 2nd date......shows consideration, thoughtfulness.....goes a long way in mybooks, but that's just me.

did that, she just said no seafood. so i'm kinda on my own which is why i turned to my friends @ EF

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Originally Posted by wil

"The only way to bag a classy lady, is to give her two tickets to the gun show and see if she likes the goods."

sorry, but I just couldn't resist

how do you think i got to date #2??

**pliny_2001** · February 24th, 2009, 02:16 PM

Was the first date dinner-based? (I like something a bit more low-key, though I usually don't consider the low-key thing to really be a date, so take that FWIW). If it was low-key, dinner's usually acceptable for #2, but I like to parse it up a little; tapas or something light, followed by another place that specializes in dessert and wine. Winter's gorgeous if there's an outdoor fireplace and infrared heaters.

If date one was already dinner, I've found that at some point during that dinner, she's almost always already mentioned what she likes to do. So the second date can be that, or something vaguely related to that. Finding out what she likes is a big part of date 1 - if we're able to talk about mutual likes, dislikes, and how terrible the other people in the restaurant are, date 2 is always looking good.

But I'd say go sleeveless regardless. Because those two tickets always get the goods.

**johnny_on_the_spot** · February 24th, 2009, 02:44 PM

yeah, date one was a cool little gourmet pizza place (Faccia Luna for those in the Arlington VA, Alexandria VA, State College PA, or Scranton PA areas. great place for a date with anyone, it was always on rotation when i was at PSU with my ex).

thats why i was thinking dinner and a bar with pool/darts. just because it gets us up and a little more interactive. but we arent going out til 7:30 and she is coming, so dinner is almost a necessity.

i was actually thinking of taking a button down shirt and cutting the sleeves off, this way im formal, but it also says i like to party, plus she gets to see my guns

**Italianangel** · February 24th, 2009, 03:02 PM

I always like it when they guy is interested in what I like to do and normally a girl is not going to say 'go to paris' or 'buy a house' or 'bath in diamonds' so you won't have her taking advantage of your question - you ask, what do you like to do.....then set up the second date based on that. Girls love it when a guy likes to give them what they want, what they like........I have my faves for foods so when I am taken out to a place with food I know I will like its great. But maybe she is the type to say 'I like to try new places' or maybe she says shes easy going....then your idea is fine.
Not all girls like predictability, I do sometimes, most times....but not always so the key if if you are in tune and ask what she likes, you cannot go too wrong, unless you get to fancy........some guys like to ask what you like then they define it all wrong, take her literally if you can, if she is kind enough to be honest and clear......assuming she is not one of the those shy types.
Linda

**mooshue** · February 24th, 2009, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by johnny_on_the_spot

i was actually thinking of taking a button down shirt and cutting the sleeves off, this way im formal, but it also says i like to party, plus she gets to see my guns

that whole line was a joke right? I mean im from the midwest and larry the cable guy is love-able and all lol

this line resembles some Talledage nights, i like to think of Jesus in a tuxedo t-shirt so it says im formal, but it also says i like to party too

**johnny_on_the_spot** · February 26th, 2009, 10:03 AM

yeah, that was a joke. it was a mixture of a few different things

she ended up working late because her client showed up late, i had planned on going over to dave and busters (she mentioned she liked video bowling, plus they have a ton of other games that you can play against each other at) but i live in VA and it is in MD and kinda far for the time she ended up getting done. so i went with plan B which was dinner and pool. i guess it fun because she asked me if i wanted to go see this band she was going to see with her

**wil** · February 26th, 2009, 10:20 AM

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Originally Posted by johnny_on_the_spot

she asked me if i wanted to go see this band she was going to see with her

Now I'm no expert... and since I have been married for 14 years the whole dating scene is a distant horrible (due to lack of success) memory for me... but when SHE asks YOU out for your 3rd date, things sound like they are going well.

**ItalianStallion** · February 28th, 2009, 02:36 AM

ya..sounds like it went well..now go to the concert n have fun!

**mrrockhard123** · April 12th, 2009, 11:14 PM

take her shopping. what woman doesnt love tha.

PurfectTom · April 13th, 2009, 08:54 PM

I disagree mrrockhard123 - Women may love shopping (not all do) but rarely that early on (they'll take their girlfriends along who will give honest and useful opinions) - so unless you can impress with your knowledge of "A-lines", merits of vertical/horizontal/diagonal patterned lines etc - stick with "letting her go shopping" rather than "take her shopping". If she takes you shopping it's a test - do you loose interest after a mere 2 hours and yawn, do you give correct advice (hint: answer to "do I look big in this" is never 'yes' but neither is the correct answer 'no' - the former insults & the later is probably just flattery).