Talking to the friend of the girl i like, HELP!

getyourasstomars · July 23rd, 2009, 05:26 PM

Hi, i am interested in a girl around my local area. The only problem is i don't see her around that often. But i do see her mate out and about quite often. Should i approach her friend start talking to her and then slip in that i like her mate etc. Or should i try and build a friendship with her friend first then tell her. Personally i would go for the first choice cos i have no patience. But is this the right thing to do?. I assume it will make her friend feel like im using her. Your comments will be appreciated.

**pliny_2001** · July 23rd, 2009, 08:49 PM

It puts the lotion on its skin, or it gets the hose again.

Seriously, I'll answer your question and try to get an answer from you in return. For your problem, completely ignore the friend and actually talk to the girl from your local area that you don't see around that often. Go up to her, introduce yourself, explain that you saw her and wanted to talk before she disappeared. Ask for a number, email, dinner, date, marriage -- whatever you feel comfortable with (the first two are worthless, btw). Unless you want a threesome, why the hell would you be talking to her friend (who you apparently don't know)? It's a stupid idea.

For you: please give me insight into several things. This is your first post - on a fitness forum - and it's about getting a date. Does our advice on diet and set progression seem so straight on that we must know about girls? Are your friends just gits who don't know anything? Are you lost? This isn't me being a jackass, I honestly have no idea, and would love to know.

Second, we know nothing about you, other than you rarely make an "i" into a capital letter (which means you're 16), and you use the phrase "mate" (which means you're from some nation more British-y than the US. So my advice above in generic at best. Fill in some details. Paint the word picture.

Third: the username getyourasstomars. Explain for the curious.

Thanks, and welcome to EFF.

**tooncesthecat** · July 23rd, 2009, 09:04 PM

Come on Pliny...getyourasstomars...Schwarzenegger...Total Recall...hopefully not the only thing he knows about Arnold, but it's a start

**pliny_2001** · July 24th, 2009, 08:59 AM

Ahhhh -- mystery #3 solved. I have no excuses for not noticing it.

**justaguy87337** · July 24th, 2009, 10:04 AM

welcome, first we need to know your stats if we are to assist you. as this is a fitness site and that was your first post. What are you trying to accomplish, muscle gains or fat loss. What is your workout routine? and your eating plan. Once we know that and if you can post the girl that you are interested in stats, (if she works out and what her routine is) we will be better able to determine if you too are compatable.

**Insex** · July 24th, 2009, 03:22 PM

Maybe he's a regular who's using a double-profile?

**A1food4U** · July 24th, 2009, 04:47 PM

You can't start a relationship with a woman by having a relationship with someone else. Man -up and ask the girl yourself, then apply this thinking to other problems and you'll do fine. The fastest way to any solution is never by going around the issue. Damn the Torpedoes and all that. . .

getyourasstomars · July 24th, 2009, 05:38 PM

the problem is that i dont see the girl i like enough otherwise i would go up to her instead the only way to get to her is thorugh her friend.

Answers to above questions

i am not 16 im much older.
i dont think correct grammer matters in text messages or on internet forums
i am from a British like country
i heard this forum had pretty good responses for relationship problems thats

**wildstang** · July 26th, 2009, 01:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by getyourasstomars

the problem is that i dont see the girl i like enough otherwise i would go up to her instead the only way to get to her is thorugh her friend.

Answers to above questions

i am not 16 im much older.
i dont think correct grammer matters in text messages or on internet forums
i am from a British like country
i heard this forum had pretty good responses for relationship problems thats

if you dont see this girl much what makes you think going through her friend will help?

SUPREME · August 8th, 2009, 08:23 AM

LMAO...listen, if you're older than 16 have you even had sex yet? I mean, c'mon...if you like a girl, let it be KNOWN to that girl. And why is it that you don't see this girl often, but you see her friend more often? Whatever you do..DO NOT tell that chick that you like her friend. Signals can get crossed that way. You're better off doing it yourself.